erin

@erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  You decided I’m mad, not me. You also didn’t answer the question. Obvious rage bait, shouldn’t have fed the troll.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Can you elaborate? What is “honest and open” about being rude to someone for no reason?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Nothing irks me more than the “sharing your unasked for opinion at any time is just telling the truth” crowd. Come on. You must know the difference between honesty and integrity for the sake of good communication and being insensitive because it’s “the truth.” You’re not being honest, regardless of the truth of your beliefs, you’re being a dick if you tell someone they’re not attractive without being asked.

  If someone asks, “Am I attractive,” not fishing for compliments but asking for an opinion, you wouldn’t be a dick for saying “I wouldn’t describe you as conventionally attractive,” or “you aren’t my type, so not to me.” You would still be a dick for saying either of those things to someone who didn’t ask, or delivering your answer in an inconsiderate manner. Truth doesn’t make your words right. You can be correct and still very wrong.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I would need to see multiple, peer reviewed sources. It’s a very sensitive topic, but regardless, I don’t believe that that material should be floating around. Access it through a psychiatrist, or therapist.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s the same argument, that the character only looks like a child, but isn’t. I chose a hyperbolic example for emphasis, but it’s the same argument. It looks like a child. That’s the point.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I have always felt the “actually she’s 1000 years old and just looks like a child” argument is both ridiculous and disingenuous. They’re interested because she looks like a child, not because of her character supposed age. Again, but rephrased, what’s the difference if someone makes a character that looks like a real child but is fictional and much older in their characterization? At what point is it morally acceptable? Do you need to use an ambiguous art style? Do you need to include inhuman character traits? I simply cannot take the argument seriously, because clearly the character looking like a child is important. What difference does the story you tell yourself about their age make? Why not just pretend real CSAM is just young looking aliens that are a million years old? If it looks like a child, I believe it’s unequivocally immoral, and there is no line you can draw that would convince me that a childlike drawing that falls on the “OK” side of the line isn’t immoral.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rule 34 rule⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Legality and morality don’t necessarily align. I would find it very immoral, but as far as I know, not illegal, to get off to drawings of children. Additionally, what’s the difference between a photo of a child and a realistic drawing of a “fictional character” that looks like said child? I think getting off to children is wrong, regardless of criminality. If that’s something someone desires, they should seek help, not indulge in fantasy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Helldivers 2 and Palworld devs wish players understood that 'easy' additions and updates are sometimes really hard: 'That's half a year's work. That takes six months'⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ignoring the part about the super credits and fomo stuff, the money confuses me. Is regional pricing so different that you’re paying an additional $10 AUD compared to US and EU pricing? Additionally, $25 AUD as a full day’s income? Even a low hour, part time job earns way more than that. I feel like your situation might not be financially compatible with buying things like that, I’d cheat or pirate if it’s that important to you. $10 USD is not much for DLC, and while I strongly dislike purchasable gameplay mechanics in games, it’s supporting the continued development and it isn’t egregious. $10 is a burger, or a coffee, and I’m saying this as someone well below the poverty line.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  If you could look at a 6 year old and call them “born bad” for any level of mistake, it would make you an asshole. Why would you treat your child self like that?

  No action a 6 year old takes is indicative of anything but their immediate environment. If you did something “terrible” when you were 6, maybe think about what that says about who was raising you, and why you’ve been made to think that it’s “terrible.” You desperately need to work through your childhood trauma with a professional.

  Would you treat a random 6 year old how you’re treating yourself? Why or why not?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Excellent question, but I have no idea. She tears the medicine labels off for some reason so I’ll ask her when she gets home and edit with more info. It’s a capsule and a tiny pill, taken morning and night respectively, if that means anything to you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨doctors⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My parents and my fiancee have gotten on an equivalent of Ozempic specifically for weight loss and covered by insurance. It seems to be easier now than it was, because if my fiancee wasn’t covered we absolutely couldn’t afford it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I wouldn’t say either. Sex is way more intimate than just hugging. I’d say it’s like “making out” but better. It’s lots of fun, and I don’t care about the societal norms restricting it between romantic partners. Pregnancy isn’t a risk for me, and I’m very careful to avoid STDs. I haven’t had sex with someone without a recent STD panel, and I use protection when necessary. My fiancee feels the same way, so I have sex with my friends all the time

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  For context I guess, here’s my views on the list you posted, as someone who is very much not religious and dated plenty before finding my fiancee:

  • Marriage might be awesome for some, but it’s also not for everyone, and there are far too many bad marriages that could’ve been good casual relationships

  • Standards are definitely good to have, but I guarantee mine are very different than the average Catholic

  • No shame in being single. Better to be single than in a toxic relationship just for the sake of a relationship.

  • I probably couldn’t see myself marrying a religious person, but if their beliefs don’t infringe on other’s rights then I guess they can do them.

  • Sex is just sex, cohabitation is convenient, cheaper, and pleasant. I’ve never been married and I’ve lived more of my adult life with a roommate or partner than not. I also don’t believe sex needs to be confined within the boundaries of a relationship either, and I have sex with people that aren’t my fiancee, both with and without her, though that’s definitely uncommon and always done with the full consent of all parties.

  • Dating could be for finding a future spouse. It could also just be for fun, or for a casual relationship, or a long term relationship with no intent to marry.

  • Relatively wide variety in how long people date before marriage, if ever. I never planned on it for years, but I met my fiancee and changed my mind. We dated for a year before getting engaged.

  • Normal to date in highschool.

  Obviously this is only my perspective. No judgement, to each their own. Other than the views on polyamory (though more accurately, just sex. Open relationship? I don’t have a label for it), these opinions seem very common among the average dating population. My sample may be skewed since I’m bisexual and over half my relationships have been gay.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Online ‘Pedophile Hunters’ Are Growing More Violent — and Going Viral: With the rise of loosely moderated social media platforms, a fringe vigilante movement is experiencing a dangerous evolution.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Look it up. It’s not my job to educate you. Facing danger in real life is a real problem, having every conservative politician focusing on banning your healthcare and reducing your rights is a real problem. I have to believe you’re an empathy lacking troll or a bigot, and likely both. Discrimination is a "real problem,’ and even if pedophilia was the number one political issue in our country, extrajudicial violence isn’t going to solve it. And I block bigots, because I’m not going to debate someone who acts in bad faith and says something like

  there are people with real problems at the moment

  Insane thing to say.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Online ‘Pedophile Hunters’ Are Growing More Violent — and Going Viral: With the rise of loosely moderated social media platforms, a fringe vigilante movement is experiencing a dangerous evolution.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Right. My lived experience doesn’t matter, nor the statistics. I’m not seeking attention, I, like the majority of people reading this, am alarmed. I’m seeing people I care about and the community around me hurt every day, and you think “gender rules my life.” Not a person worth listening to. When was the last time you got harassed in public for something intrinsic to yourself? For my trans wife, it was today. If you seriously think that trans people aren’t currently at the front of the culture war, you’re deaf, ignorant, or lying. Watch literally any pundit speak, any newscast, or any political debate around the country. Then tell me trans people shouldn’t be concerned about violent rhetoric aimed at people they’re increasingly being lumped in with. Bigot or stupid, I won’t debate you on the reality plain around me daily.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Online ‘Pedophile Hunters’ Are Growing More Violent — and Going Viral: With the rise of loosely moderated social media platforms, a fringe vigilante movement is experiencing a dangerous evolution.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Likely, or are likely to mistakenly target a trans person who happens to be around while they’re hunting the person they cat fished. The people who are okay with extrajudicial violence are mostly conservatives. What’s to say the people willing to go to such lengths to hurt someone wouldn’t take the opportunity when they see someone they believe is a groomer and pedophile simply for being trans? It’s easy to expand the definition, and we’ve seen it happen in the past. It’s happening right now in rhetoric. Violence against trans people is already statistically high.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Online ‘Pedophile Hunters’ Are Growing More Violent — and Going Viral: With the rise of loosely moderated social media platforms, a fringe vigilante movement is experiencing a dangerous evolution.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  If someone shows up with the intent to fuck a minor, absolutely, but I guarantee those aren’t the only targets vigilantism catches.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Online ‘Pedophile Hunters’ Are Growing More Violent — and Going Viral: With the rise of loosely moderated social media platforms, a fringe vigilante movement is experiencing a dangerous evolution.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Except sometimes “pedophile” actually means “trans person just living.” The right claims all trans people are groomers.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨are "brush" and "blush" really pronounced differently? i pronounce them the same.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My tongue is exactly the same with the “D” in “dentist” and “dog.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's easier to shoot, a bow or a firearm?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Low draw means low power and penetration. For speed shooting or distracting/stunning a target, that would be helpful, but you’re not gonna kill someone unless it’s a very lucky shot. There’s a reason war bows were such high draw weight, and it wasn’t for piercing plate. More power means more energy retained over distance and more energy delivered to the target. If you’re needing to speed shoot in close quarters in a self defense scenario, you’re probably better off using the bow as a club or stabbing them with an arrow directly. Archers usually carried other weapons for that reason.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Current day America has proven beyond a doubt, humanity is the only animal that wouldn't jump out of a slowly boiling pot of water.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This is not the case. Trans people are being denied passports of either gender marker as officials “wait for clarification” on the new rules. Furthermore, passports are being confiscated.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This is the life I dream of from my cubicle⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh, true. He also wrote the first known usage of the popular phrase “lick my ass” though. Fun fact.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Israel PM says ordered military to 'seize' Syria buffer zone⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What an insane thing to say. I’m Jewish (non-religious). I’m strongly anti-zionist. Most Jewish people I know, especially young ones, do not support Israel. Israel is a problem, but the moment you extend that to religious and ethnic groups, regardless of overlap, you’re inviting hate and violence. It would be like blaming Mexican people for Mexican cartels, Arabs or Muslims for ISIS, or ethnic Russians for the actions of the Russian government.

  The Israeli government is “the problem,” not Jewish people categorically. Totalitarian regimes around the world are “the problem,” not the ethnic or religious groups that live where they occupy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The ability to be spontaneous in life is directly proportion to the size of your bank account⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I believe they were being sarcastic.