Drivebyhaiku
@Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world
- Comment on If you're still on Reddit... 3 weeks ago:
Hilarious! You want the last word to salvage what little pride you can. 😂
- Comment on If you're still on Reddit... 3 weeks ago:
Pfft! Really hit the bottom of the tank huh? This shit is so 2017 paint by numbers it’s not even good trolling. Philistine made me laugh though so points there.
- Comment on If you're still on Reddit... 3 weeks ago:
Oh I am not dragged down. I am an old troll counterpuncher from the old pre reddit flight days. If they try and take me down they will find I do not make it rewarding.
- Comment on If you're still on Reddit... 3 weeks ago:
Ah yes, “just stating your opinions” “echo chambers” and the calls that you are being oppressed and policed, that I am both a narcissist and a weak little trans weenie who needs to shut themselves away where I can’t hear your big strong ideas.
It’s the full right wing bingo card. Do you lot ever get tired of clutching those pearls?
Don’t answer I know you will die with those things in a death grip.
- Comment on If you're still on Reddit... 3 weeks ago:
And in your second paragraph, see how you had to add ugly to my statement to make it malicious and false, that is you projecting onto me, not me
Ah so “barely even cosmetically complete” doesn’t register as you calling them aesthetically displeasing? Fuck off.
The framing as it being a personal choice not to pursue those options are the thinnest veneer of setting yourself up for this reaction to be shocked and appalled that someone would call you out. Even if you were trans yourself framing it the way you did before would register as you being an ass to other people in your community.
Troll behavior.
- Comment on If you're still on Reddit... 3 weeks ago:
Well yeah. It’s openly critical of the sexual function of people who have had those proceedures. The trans community as a whole are often depicted as mutilated and less functional by transphobes or people who want to devalue them as valid romantic options. Since access to those medical services are actively under fire that critique isn’t value neutral and it isn’t in the context of what unaltered sexual function is like for people with dysphoria whom often register a marked improvement in overall function from getting over the mental blocks.
The people I know who have had surgeries have been quite happy with the outcome. While it’s true the surgery options regarding bottom surgery for trans men require one to make some decisions about what functions to focus on, framing them as “barely functional” is insulting. Think about what it would be like to hear someone else critique the choices you’ve made that have improved your life experiences in a way that frames you as deficient and devalued.
- Comment on Warner Bros. Cancels Planned ‘Hogwarts Legacy’ Game Expansion 3 weeks ago:
It isn’t for “no real effect”. Harry Potter is a merchandise empire and it’s important to see how that empire is being utilized. Open fan support of Harry Potter is often used as a direct open signal of anti-trans support and Terf ideology. Here in Vancouver where we have a larger than average population of trans and non-binary folk and more open accommodation to the community a billboard was put up saying “I❤️ JK Rowling” downtown because it’s a more nebulous dogwhistle that wouldn’t immediately ping Canada’s hate speech laws so that the whole “Freedom of Speech” ploy could be envoked.
Whenever a new HP franchise item comes out there’s a wave of people who flood online and sometimes in person trans spaces who use the barest veneer of support of the franchise as a means to say some truely awful things about trans people. Some don’t even bother mentioning the franchise they just participate in the storming because they have the opportunity. Those spaces are often filled with vulnerable people seeking support and solidarity and these rushes can leave isolated trans people without community for weeks.
Here in Van someone wearing HP merch in any queer space is throwing up a flag that says “I am potentially an unsafe person.”
Article of the billboard.
You don’t have to give up your books. All we ask is that people do not white knight the author or the publication and merchandising empire which keeps making her influence into an active memetic weapon.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
Then you stick to your own country. Know that every time Trump says the word 51st state he is threatening us. We do not want the absurd parody of the word that is American freedom. We have our own freedom. I do not need to speak to our Government because they are already doing the right thing. Stay on your side of the line. We will not suffer oppressors least of all ones too stupid to mourn what they have lost.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
No. But you are in support of this regime. It is a cacophony of individuals that make this happen and while you are a small atom of that movement without support from all it’s atomic fragments it would not be empowered to do anything of this. You are on here crowing about how much fun you’re having. How happy you are your man is in charge. Talking about how you are going to infiltrate other communities as a sleeper agent to become a mod and shut down the conversations when there are already spaces where your opinions see the air without question but that is not enough for you. Washing your hands Pontius Pilate will not absolve you. Everyone here is accountable, you aren’t somehow magically exempt because you are “just a widdle guy”.
Your country is being damaged by the day. It’s hemmoraging good will on the international stage, the business deals are going elsewhere, the unemployment rates from the federal government purges racking up will start to hit your country in the next few months as individual citizens stop buying anything but bare nessessities while they search for jobs that don’t exist because there will be no replacements.
So rejoice! Today you feast, tomorrow you starve and when you look to blame someone for it save a little share for the man in the mirror.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
You are an idiot. Your President is trying to take over our country based on 20 kilos of fentanyl, which is about as much as was apprehended goung in the opposite direction btw and a supposed deficit of enforcement we already voted to step up 6 months ago.
Oh… And is calling a trade agreement he signed and called “the most wonderful trade agreement of all time” at the time suddenly an exploitation of Americans.
You’re Flavor-aid poisoned. Wake the fuck up.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
Oh plenty of reasons to be angry. Your Mad King keeps treating our country like it belongs to him and posturing to take it over. There’s citizen movements up here essentially preparing for war and strengthening ties to actual allies.
Your head is firmly up your own ass if you think we have no cause to be fucking pissed.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
Glad I’m not there and not planning on setting foot on American soil until you stop being a failed state. Thanks for asking!
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
Great. Have fun on the way down.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
Nope, who your Presidents are is kind of inconsequential at this point. The system sucks because it was written by people who figured a king was nessisary and you lot never updated it into modernity after and now it’s failed due to old age.
The only thing keeping the whole thing on the rails for as long as it did was believing in fairies. The rest of the world looked at that system and when they built their own democracies they fixed the bugs with more modern designs.
Taunt us all you like but enjoy living in a failure that progressively more people can’t believe in anymore Tinkerbell.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
You didn’t read what I wrote huh? Alright. I will keep it short so you can keep up.
It’s not Trump.
It’s every American President since the beginning. They just used to have to pretend it wasn’t true.
It’s time to grow up and become a real democracy like the rest of us.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
He already is dipshit. American democracy is old as fuck compared to the rest of the world and an American president has undemocratic levels of power compared to most other democracies. Biden and every other President before him was also a King they just played by the expectations not to act like one.
Your system is crumbling old ass garbage half written in archaic obsolete law language. A Democracy beta test written by people who still saw the role of monarch as nessisary. The world moved on from your system a hundred years ago because they unlike you lot didn’t mythologize the writers of their documents as Gods of creation and you lot had your heads so far up your own asses you never noticed the joke you were becoming. It might have been cute once but now it’s just fucking sad.
- Comment on Is this a c/ for making fun of conservatives? 1 month ago:
You know those are constitutional monarchies right? Their monarchs have effectively less political power than the American President by far and at best hold a symbolic role of paper stamper.
Also they have a solid history of axing them when they overstep (sometimes literally), and bringing their successors back on with further reduced function in government. These days they are basically just overpayed legacy mascots that have lucrative longstanding contracts…
Maybe America should follow suit with the rest of Europe, depose their Mad Kings and make them actual civil servants accountable to the people or just kooky sock puppets to entertain the masses with. It would be a nice change.
- Comment on Am I a bad friend/rude for not engaging with my friends and giving one-word responses? 2 months ago:
It is probably the case that if your friends do veiw you as a friend and aren’t made aware that this isn’t because of something they did but a way you are then this behaviour is likely hurting them to some degree or another. Your discription of how you interfsce with friends is fairly consistent with cluster B personality disorders but that doesn’t mean it’s automatically bad. It does mean that if you want to become a safe person to associate socially with you are going to need to put in more work than average to learn what other people generally need out of relationships and to recognize pain that is going to be difficult to empathize with… And if you decide to become a safe person it will mean being more open with your friends about parts of the human experience that are assumed but in your case not shared.
Most people have needs out of friendships that if they are not met and they cannot identify why they are not met they can sort of look inwards and self emotionally mutilate, picking themselves apart to find what it wrong with themselves to warrant cold behaviour. People’s first instinct is to ask “what about me makes me undeserving.” and are very good at populating a list.
Guilt and shame for most of us is the fastest emotional response. It is way faster than reason. People who think they may have wronged you or are being rejected by you will feel guilty first and then have to pick the emotion apart to figure out if they should actually feel guilt or shame… and then even if they realize they did nothing wrong might still feel guilt or rejection. A lot of being a safe person regardless of whether one has disordered emotional issues or not involves making sure they have the tools to not feel guilt, shame or rejection for very long. The faster they can rationalize and compartmentalize what is happening isn’t about them it is about you the more likely it is to not stick and develop into a longer term emotional injury or weakness. Once someone has been put in a position to effectively bully themselves that creates possible long term damage. A lot of the time, particularly for young people first experiencing this who have not learned how to be safe around people with cluster B disorders the outcome resolves as long term anger towards the person who made them question themselves.
If your friends are growing apart it may be because they already think you do not care about them and have already gone through this self bullying process but have now started to trade notes to see if they are the problem or not. If they reach a mutual concensus about you being emotionally unrecipricative then they might withdraw to avoid being hurt further. A sense of being valued in some form is a nessisary portion of friendship for most people. They will project that assumption of being valued and emotionally cared for onto you by default if you act like a friend because that is something they do when they act that way and even if they logically know it isn’t reciprocated they might not give up on you if you show effort to keep them in your life. Someone who acts like a friend but never did show signs of caring is more often than not going to be falsely attributed as once caring but withdrawing that care for a reason, which is in some relationship circumstances is inflicted as a punishment. So even if it’s not your intention people might interpret your behaviour not as rude but as a deliberate act of cruelty.
If you want them to stick around then letting them know that you like the experience of them as people in some way is key. Like if you find them more entertaining than most or recognize their good qualities then letting them know is what is going to keep them around.
What nobody tells you is that people before the age of 25 tend to make closer relationships where they emotionally risk more and become closer faster. Generally speaking it is more difficult to make as dedicated friends as an older adult as people are less likely to latch and a lot of people when they fail to make these types of high risk close friendships later in life interpret themselves as deficient as a person. You are in the prime age of emotionally high risk but high reward friendships. That does mean that the way these friendships resolve might become formative to the people around you as you might be one of the first non-safe relationships they have as they have not built adequate defenses. Wounds suffered in youth have an outsized effect and if things go particularly south without adequate explanation they may particularly remember you long term as a source of personal anguish.
Remember this, vulnerability is a bonding behaviour, your vulnerability just works a lot different than other people’s. People might reject you if they can’t figure out how to interface with your type of vulnerability but some will genuinely recognize it as you risking something because you ultimately value them not being hurt over their usefulness and function in your life. There are a lot of people out there with empathy above and beyond the median… But I would recommend therapy for lessons on how to navigate relationships in a non-standard way.
- Comment on Shower Thought: Being a republican who hates the liberals is a good thing 3 months ago:
It’s either a party brand name in which case it’s meant to invoke a vibe of progressivism that it may or may not live up to because it’s just part of political word salad…
Or its a political system that premiered back in the day of John Locke and Stuart Mill before fundamental rights were a widely accepted thing for the average joe that advocated for a series of basic human rights that from the start was very very focused on individual property rights and protection from government seizure because there was a habit monarchs had of doing that shit all the god damn time. Exceptions to these rights always existed but how the government interacts with those property rights particularly when it comes to “rights of corporations” is kind of up in the air. Socialism can optionally dovetail into liberalism by socializing different aspects of property and services but is not compatible with Communism because individual property rights are in direct conflict with allocation of resources based on government calculated need.
Technically Republicans and Liberals in the US are both liberals just Republicans are “neo-liberals” an ideology that became vogue with the likes of Regan and Thatcher where government regulatory bodies are looked at as an enemy and chunks of what were government are privatized… Which these parties sell as a cost cutting austerity measure but this has never been historically known to do anything but make things worse quality, not less expensive anf line the pockets of contractors and shareholders who are usually unsurprisingly ex politicians.
- Comment on Has "Self-Driving" devolved? 6 months ago:
That the tech has evolved to be better actually is an assumption. The novel data problem hasn’t been meaningfully addressed really at all so mostly we assume that progress has been made… but it’s not meaningful progress. The promises being made for future capability is mostly pretty stale hype that hasn’t changed year to year with a lot of the targets remaining unchanged. We are getting more data on where specifically and how it’s failing, which is something, but overall it appears to be a plateau of non-linear progress with different updates being sometimes less safe than newer ones.
That actually safe self driving cars might be decades away however is antithetical to the hype run marketing campaigns that are working overtime to put up smoke and mirrors around the issue.