wren
@wren@sopuli.xyz
- Comment on How does a SO feel different from a very good friend? 10 months ago:
Definitely varies for people, and there is actually a book coming out soon called “The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center” that you might find an interesting read.
For me, my fiancée is my best friend. Sure we’ve both had best friends before, but the connection was instant and way more intense than with anyone else for both of us. What makes our relationship different than a friendship is that we want to build a life together, we’re a team, we’re each eachother’s top priority, and, yes like most relationships there’s a physical aspect to it, amongst other things. The phrase ‘she’s my person’ really encompasses what it feels like, personally anyway.
If somethings right, you’ll feel it. When you find someone that sparks a connection beyond just friends, you’ll know. And if that never happens, don’t be too hard on yourself and start thinking there’s something wrong with you. Being neurodivergent and on the asexual / aromantic spectrum can make these questions harder, if they apply. Just do what feels right and don’t over think it too much. Easier said than done, I know
- Comment on A lesson in Input Validation 10 months ago:
The script is ~55k characters long, depending on the source. This transcript includes who is saying the line, as well as descriptive elements of the story, so the actual ‘words only’ version will be a bit shorter. From what I’ve seen, though, most of transcripts have these non verbal inclusions, so the person who added it to the special instructions likely copied those over as well.
I can’t speak to the other points, but allowing 55k characters is definitely wild.
- Comment on How do I stop hating children? 10 months ago:
I struggle with a lot of sounds, having a sensory processing disorder, the list of which is far too long to write out here. So I totally understand the frustration and how rage inducing it is, you are definitely not alone. Especially when people don’t understand it’s not a patience issue, it’s a ‘my brain isn’t wired the same way as yours and it genuinely cannot be fixed’ issue.
Other people have mentioned therapy, which is definitely a good idea. They can help you find ways to channel the energy into something else, or help you find the root cause (if it’s a children-specific thing, and not just a general sensory issue), or teach you good cognitive behavioral therapy practices.
In the interim, since finding a good therapist for you can take a lot of time, I would definitely recommend some form of earplugs. Mine have saved me and my sanity so so so many times. If I can recommend a particular pair, I would suggest the Loop Switch, since they let you adjust the sound reduction levels on the fly - but any brand / even the foam tip ones (as long as they fit you properly!) can help immeasurably. For me, just knowing I have earplugs with me helps dealing with these sounds, even if I don’t wind up using them, just knowing the option is there. Some form of stress ball or those grip / forearm strengtheners might also be of use for you? It can be a good distraction, as well as allowing yourself to let off some of the steam in a relatively healthy and inconspicuous manner.
And kudos for knowing this is a problem for you, and looking for help on how to improve it. I hope you’re able to make progress you want, one way or another. Good luck, OP - we’re rooting for you
- Comment on Improvise. Adapt. Overcome. 11 months ago:
- Comment on From the moon's perspective, any cow that jumps is over it 11 months ago:
Not the only land animal, but it’s true they can’t jump: 100% super reliable source.
Mainly linking that site because this line kills me:
The tortoise cannot jump because it lacks agility and speed.
- Comment on Baldur’s Gate 3 Patch 5 Adds New Playable Epilogue With 3,589 Lines of Extra Dialogue, Much More 11 months ago:
Hahhahaha I love it
- Comment on Baldur’s Gate 3 Patch 5 Adds New Playable Epilogue With 3,589 Lines of Extra Dialogue, Much More 11 months ago:
Oof.
I hope it works out!
- Comment on Baldur’s Gate 3 Patch 5 Adds New Playable Epilogue With 3,589 Lines of Extra Dialogue, Much More 11 months ago:
If I’m honest, I’ve not been able to play it… at all.
Mostly because the updates are multi gig downloads and I never leave my computer in an idle long enough to actually download them lol
But that sounds rough, I hope you’re able to salvage your Paladin’s reputation soon!
- Comment on Baldur’s Gate 3 Patch 5 Adds New Playable Epilogue With 3,589 Lines of Extra Dialogue, Much More 11 months ago:
Im still trying to download the last update 😭
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
I definitely hope the trend continues, though not necessarily replacing consoles as an entity. I’ve an Aya Neo 2021 (first gen) and it’s been amazing. I have a hard time staying in one place and actually committing to sitting down at a console / desktop to play games, I don’t like gaming on laptops too much, and the Switch has a limited library; so a handheld PC specifically made for gaming has been fantastic. It’s so nice to just pick up and be able to play whereever, and I’m very glad to see that it seems like handheld PCs are here to stay
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
My friends and I did this too lol
In 2, we’d also try to jump on each other’s heads without them noticing
- Comment on A funneling system i made to keep my automatic dog feeders topped off. 1 year ago:
This is glorious. I really can’t wait to get a 3d printer, love this kind of problem solving
- Comment on What is your gaming "comfort food" and why? 1 year ago:
Borderlands 2, there’s just something about it. I’ve put so many hours into it on various platforms, and it never gets old. The story is so good and I just love the play style. It’s super easy to restart the campaign or there’s always some farming / grinding to do, depending on the vibe for the day
- Comment on Your move 1 year ago:
I like mine just because it’s pretty to look at
and it tastes salty
- Comment on The Fall of Stack Overflow 1 year ago:
Because forum posts are always full of accurate and helpful information?
Not necessarily, but at least there’s much more opportunity for other people to jump in and correct false info or expand upon something. It’s by no means a flawless system, but it’s better than only have one source of information