It turns out that it's not that my memory is bad, quite the contrary. It's just that I can't distinguish between memories and daydreams.

Submitted ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨NONE_dc@lemmy.world⁩ to ⁨showerthoughts@lemmy.world⁩

I have always thought that I have a very terrible memory, but on a second though I realize that I remember things very well, even the daydreams I have on a regular basis.

I have… How is it called? "Maladaptive daydreaming"?

What really happens is that I have become accustomed to mistrusting my memory because of how difficult it is for me to distinguish whether what I remember really happened or whether I imagined it.

I usually don’t think much of it because I assume it doesn’t cause me any big problems, but maybe this memory thing is a wake-up call…

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drspod@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

it doesn’t cause me any big problems

Can you be sure about that?

I have a friend who says he has a terrible memory and he often asks me to tell him about things that happened in the past that we experienced together. You should definitely ask people close to you to do the same.

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- NONE_dc@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  I have never gone to such extremes. I may confuse trivial details, but at the moment I have not reached the point of being forced to ask others about things that I either misremember or don’t remember at all.
  
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Rocketpoweredgorilla@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Along the same lines, A lot of times I’ll think of saying/doing something but then end up second guessing myself so much that I have to look it up just to confirm I’m not wrong. Then I feel even more stupid for not believing myself the first time.

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Waldelfe@feddit.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
That’s why I started writing a diary. On the same day I can still remember very well how things happened, but weeks or moth later I might not. So I write a diary every evening with everything that happened.

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fakir@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Hmm, I can relate. Memory is leaky, like your dreams can mix in, so don’t trust memory, and that’s fair. What’s the alternative, like are you gonna stop daydreaming? Can you even stop daydreaming? I don’t think so. You can only accept / embrace who you are.

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- NONE_dc@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  I was thinking about trying to stop doubting my memory. To trust more that what I remember happened, and if it didn’t, to accept it and move on. I could also take measures, like telling myself “I’m doing this” to make the difference between what I really did and what I imagined.
  
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  - fakir@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Ah fair, trust your memory more, yes. Reality check, like biting your finger to make sure you’re not dreaming, hard to keep doing lol.
    
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