i frankly don’t care what your excuse is.

Submitted ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨alexsystem@lemm.ee⁩ to ⁨rant@lemmy.sdf.org⁩

I get it, it explains your behavior that you were abused. that your father screams at you and you have substance abuse issues, ptsd, and were bullied since age 5. i completely understand, but to beat up and bully/insult others because of it IS NOT OKAY.

i believe there’s good and bad in everyone, and potentially you could let out your good side, but im also hypersensitive and hate when people let out their bad sides intentionally regardless of stuff like this.

hating people because of their skin color or disability or sexuality, you should be fucking ashamed.

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themeatbridge@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
I always tell my kids, there’s a difference between understanding the influences on your behavior and forgiving the choices you make. You had a bad day and you didn’t sleep well and your sister was annoying you? Yeah I understand why you were upset, but that doesn’t make it OK to hit her.

Understanding and forgiving are different, and forgiveness comes when you’re sorry and try to do better. If you’re trying to justify your bad decision, it’s like you’re asking for an excuse to do it again next time.

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sj_zero ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Everyone has a choice to take the bad parts of their life and reject them or to choose to make them a lesson on what you don't want to see moving forward.

Doesn't mean you don't have empathy or sympathy for people who have hard lives, but it's a dangerous road assuming people aren't capable of choosing for themselves how to behave. We had better have a choice, or nothing can ever get better and we can't really give people freedom since they aren't able to choose for themselves.

Epictitus was a physically disabled slave in ancient Rome, and he said a lot about this sort of thing: people could control his body, but they couldn't control his mind. Now, over a millennium later, that lame slave has his name remembered alongside the philosopher king Marcus Aurelius as people of great virtue.