For context: My family isn’t the richest and we live in a super rural area. Our house is a small 1 story home with 2 bedrooms and 1 bathroom. My parents take 1 room and I (14 m almost 15) share a room with my older sister (17 f) which can be kinda annoying. We also share a bed which is normal for us since we’ve been sleeping together for years. My sister is someone who I would consider attractive objectively and I know it’s wrong to feel any sort of attraction to a sibling but there are times when I will see her walk out in a towel and catch myself looking for a little too long, or I feel a little awkward putting lotion on her back before she tans. My friends at my school also make a lot of comments about my sister who’s a senior and it kind of gets in my head. We’re also pretty comfortable changing in the same room with our backs turned to each other, and I kind of sleep better when I sorta hug her. She also tends to wear little around the house since it gets super hot here and we dont over use the air conditioning, and I know it’s wrong but I’ve been getting like random intrusive thoughts and feelings that make me wanna kick myself. Idk if there’s something wrong with me or if it’s just puberty but what do I do, need real advice.
How do I deal with feelings towards my sister? (Genuine advice please)
Submitted 3 months ago by boredasf@lemmy.world to nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
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november@lemmy.vg 3 months ago
[deleted]14th_cylon@lemm.ee 3 months ago
separate rooms. If you can’t afford that
If you can’t afford that, maybe start with two separate beds.
Being horny in puberty is normal, two teen siblings of opposing sex sharing a bed is definitely not.
snausagesinablanket@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Bunkbeds will take up the same space and you will at least be separated when sleeping.
You can state that you are both teenagers now and both need privacy.
gibmiser@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Yeah, your parents are setting you up for this.
You could try talking to your parents and asking for bunk beds like the other poster said, but unless you explain the attraction they might just say no.
If your parents are reasonable people I bet it can be fixed by telling them “ever since I hit puberty sharing a room with sister has gotten harder, and i really can’t share a bed with her anymore, i cant control parts of my body and it’s super embarrassing and weird.”
Not fun, but that should do it.
shalafi@lemmy.world 3 months ago
You’re young and wildly horny. It’ll pass. I don’t mean to be flippant, but that’s just how it is for guys your age. Been there, done, that.