I’m a man in my 40’s, moved to a new area and trying to make friends. A guy I’ve had lunch with a couple of times and we’ve connected pretty well. I’m not getting disinterested vibes when we’re actually at lunch. However, I’ve invited him to lunch 3 times recently, once each month, and he’s not responded. He’s responded to other texts. “Hey, I’m going to event XYZ, any advice” and he’d reply. I’ve run into him at the grocery store twice in that time period and he’s been genial. I’m getting really, really mixed signals.
How many more times do you try in a situation like this before you “take the hint” and stop?
meco03211@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’ve no idea, but I wanted to say kudos to you for trying and looking for help. My socially awkward ass would probably chalk it up to a loss and never initiate with the guy again.
About the only thing I can offer is I’ve sort of been that guy. Had a friend who would have game nights every so often where he’d invite a bunch of people over. I’d almost never go or respond, but damn if I didn’t appreciate the hell out of always getting the invite.