Comment on There Is No Male Loneliness Crisis. What’s Actually Happening Is So Much Darker.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 7 hours agothat’s true. male intimacy is activity based and less talk-based, and it’s devalued as such.
this also has a lot to do with male mental health. men improve their mental health by doing things, not by talking about feelings.
but our therapy industry/culture highly values talk therapy and regards intimacy as primarily verbal.
when i tell people, women specially, about what I do to maintain my mental health. they immediately dismiss it, because it’s not talk-therapy. if I’m not in talk therapy, I must be mentally ill, if I don’t have ‘deep’ talks about my feelings with friends, they can’t be real friends, etc.
you are entirely right, it’s a massive massive mismatch in expectations and definitions of what these things mean.
supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz@sopuli.xyz 4 hours ago
What a stunningly obtuse thought terminating belief.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
yeah, please prove my point by telling me how wrong and stupid i am.
supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz@sopuli.xyz 3 hours ago
Please take a step away from the internet for a bit, you are not a healthy presence here.
I never said anything of the sort, when I say reject placing people into narrow categories I am not saying that what you say you need is not what you say you need, I am saying you are an asshole for extrapolating from that to “all men” or whatever the hell generalization you are making of your misery.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
lol, right anyone who disagrees with you is unhealthy… that’s not at all a toxic way to view the world.