This is a pre-boomer joke 💪
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irmoz@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Haha yes, good joke, by the way, have you seen these new fangled automobiles? They’ll never replace the good old fashioned horse and carriage. I also hewr some Austrian dickhead is making moves in Germany - hope it doesn’t spark another war. Anyway, I’m off to beat my wife and suppress my emotions, because it’s apparently 1920.
CurlyMoustache@lemmy.world 1 year ago
demlet@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Oh, be fair, lots of men still beat their wives and suppress their emotions.
irmoz@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Tru tru, likely cos they wanna harken to a century ago when it was practically the law
demlet@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Well, some probably. But also, humans are often violent. It’s pretty hardwired in. And some men are wired to be more violent than others unfortunately. That’s before we even get into cycles of abuse and all that environmental stuff. Like, the 1920s were three generations ago. Not excusing them at all, but lots of men are dealing with generational trauma that easily goes back further than that.
queermunist@lemmy.world 1 year ago
As a trans woman who spent a lot of her life as a violent man, I have some perspective on this.
The tendency to blow up and hit things? Those are panic attacks. Men don’t like to think of themselves as having sissy emotional problems and so they just try to stubbornly power through their panic by yelling and hitting things, but like, a good cry really fucking helps you know?
irmoz@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Excuses. Trauma can cause aberrant behaviour, true, but unless your moral center is corrupted by toxic belieds, you will recognise those behaviours as wrong and feel bad about it. The types of people who think the dynamic pictured in the OP are standard have either been raised with or have discovered and adopted an ideology of patriarchy, that presents such behaviour as morally good.
So yes, you may have anger issues or problems with violence because of trauma, but you will still feel remorse because you now it’s wrong. Or, on the other hand, you may simply believe that such violence and domination is the natural social order and thus be a toxic scumbag.