Comment on Is my girlfriend gaslighting me?

• lvxferre@mander.xyz ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I get that you’re trying to get more info to help OP out better, but I think that it’s better to drop this “where are you from?” talk. Privacy-wise it’s rather problematic, you know? [Sorry for the uncalled advice.]

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  • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Asking someone their country of residence is privacy intruding? Lol

    In Tue strictest sense perhaps, but I dont think a criminal could make something of the knowledge that I am from Germany.

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    • lvxferre@mander.xyz ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      As a wise man once said, “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean that they aren’t after you.” Oh wait, that was Kurt Cobain, not a wise man.

      Jokes aside, don’t assume that a piece of info about someone else is fine to share, because it is for you. OP likely has their reasons and that’s to be respected. (NB: this is coming from someone who doesn’t mind even sharing their city online.)

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    • relevants@feddit.de ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Asking someone their country of residence is privacy intruding? Lol

      I am from Germany

      If you were really from Germany, you’d never have given that much personal information up voluntarily!

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      • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Eh, at best you could create a shadow profile of me. I scrubbed the internet of my actual identity years ago, but you could probably piece together a semi accurate john doe of me from various bits of information I shared on here over the time.

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  • Brunbrun6766@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Lmao it was a joke because London is known for their extremely extensive CCTV network

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    • lvxferre@mander.xyz ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Then I derped. My bad!

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• RyanLiu@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Haha, our city has a much lower crim rate than London actually.

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  • hendrik@palaver.p3x.de ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yeah, sometimes perceived reality and the real reality are two things. And there are places where you can't walk on the streets as a woman. I'm not sure if it's about fear in your case. Or just because you broke your promise but there isn't any fear involved.

    Anyways, in relationships general advice is to talk to each other. Ask her what's bothering her. Maybe it's a pretend reason and there is something deeper that's bothering her. Maybe this was the reason. Maybe she just had a bad day.

    Unless it happens regularly or there are other factors to it, I wouldn't necessarily attribute it to malice or be a manipulation strategy...

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