Comment on What everyone gets wrong about the 2015 Ashley Madison scandal

• limelight79@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Back when I was in online dating (I got married in 2010, so it has been a very long time), this is how it seemed to work in the hetero arena:

  • Women (by which I mean, legitimate accounts from women who were actually looking for dates): Get 1,000,000 messages, approximately 999,900 of which are dick pics.
  • Men: See 1,000,000 ads, of which about 3 are legitimate people looking for dates.

  So, both could be true in relation to the image.

  I remember a guy once telling me that basically you have to respond to EVERY AD and hope something sticks. I never did that, and I felt bad for what the women must have had to deal with when I heard that. I had very limited success - dates with, at most, two or three women, and none of those really went anywhere. I ended up marrying someone from work instead.

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  • radicalautonomy@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Straight dating online is like trying to find drinkable water in a crisis situation; women are stranded in the ocean, and men are stranded in the desert.

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  • stoicmaverick@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Dude. You got 3 whole messages?

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    • limelight79@lemm.ee ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Some kind of miracle, I know. Actually I got more messages, but many of them were either spam or never even made it to a date.

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  • wagesj45@kbin.run ⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Both definitely are true. I don't mean to indicate that one view is right. One feeds into the other. This is just he natural outcome when one sex is a sexual selector and one is not. I don't envy either group online dating, but for different reasons.

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