That’s why the only take I have ever found that’s reasonable regarding religion goes a bit like this:

Hell is not real. Not in the literal sense, anyway. We all go to “heaven” or whatever afterlife it is, but we get a chance to reflect upon our entire lives. If you were a good person, then you may feel some regret for the harm you caused others, but you can generally feel satisfied with your previous existence. If you were a terrible person, you probably wouldn’t want to be around a being such as God, which, if he’s everything he’s cracked up to be, is the most “goodness” that ever good-ed. So by extension, your “hell,” your “separation from God,” would be the guilt that drives you away, by your own accord, despite his forgiveness, and not actually a sentence that you are condemned to.

I can see some merit to that thinking, at the very least it’s not completely unfair as we see with so many mainstream religious takes.