Yep! I feel similar to your bf myself, actually, but I try not to describe myself that way except to people like my partner. I feel that at this point, itd be closer to stolen Valor in my case. I honestly feel it’d put more queer people at odds with me, so I just call myself straight with caveats.
Glad to hear things seem to be going well for you!
eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 months ago
It always depends but tbh I hope you feel free to use whatever terminology you find useful to describe yourself! and I think there’s no valor that can be stolen, identity is what you make for yourself. It’s always a joy to learn someone I know is queer in any form. Lots of us have had times where we’ve doubted how we describe ourselves too and gatekeeping labels doesn’t tend to help anyone. You will come across people who do here and there, I did myself, but in my super objective opinion they’re annoying and smell bad. Labels are just tools for further conversation and more people using queer labels is a good thing.