To everyone attempting to reply to the above comment in good faith, remember that the only way to productively engage with a hexbear is to not engage at all.
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booty@hexbear.net 10 months agoit looks like snowe wasn’t being aggressive at all
name-calling is universally considered to be aggressive. “ignorant troll” definitely counts
And getting hate for using “they” is excessive.
it is an extremely common transphobic tactic to de-gender people whose pronouns are easily visible as a plausibly deniable way of attacking them. considering all of us have our pronouns in our names on hexbear, we’re going to assume that anyone 'they’ing us is doing it on purpose, which is an entirely reasonable assumption.
and all this argument started because this admin wanted to defend the latest shovelware trash game by the dev of Cars 3: Driven to Win, which is about putting down the revolt of the race of greedy hook-nosed bankers in a setting written by one of the world’s most open and notorious transphobes
in short: nah this sucks and defederation from queer instances makes sense
hakase@lemm.ee 10 months ago
Kuori@hexbear.net 10 months ago
you’re the one poisoning the well, how is that not troll-adjacent at best?
btbt@hexbear.net 10 months ago
I’ll never get over the fact that the sheer reality of our existence is enough to melt some people’s brains, we’re truly the spectre haunting online libs
Rom@hexbear.net 10 months ago
If you want people to reply to you in good faith you have to engage in good faith. If you’re going to make passive-aggressive comments like this, don’t be surprised when we make fun of you for it.
Edit: Note the bait below, and note how I’m not wasting my time engaging with it.
You are engaging by making such smarmy little edits.
onlinepersona@programming.dev 10 months ago
Same. Block and move on.
roguetrick@kbin.social 10 months ago
Getting twisted about gender neutral language as a tool of oppression is dumb as hell. I consider gender neutral language to be preferable and more egalitarian and wish English would just drop gendered pronouns like Persian did and like we dropped gendered nouns compared to most other proto-Indo European languages. I find this nonsense position to be oppressive myself.
SheeEttin@programming.dev 10 months ago
Here’s how your comment appears in Boost via programming.dev. No pronouns visible.
If you’re going to participate outside your own instance, you have to accept that others don’t see your instance’s unique changes.
Aquilae@hexbear.net 10 months ago
That much is fine. But a normal person would stop at that and apologize and move on, not double down on it by going “getting offended by that really isn’t helping your case here.”
An admin being like this is understandably a very bad look for the instance.
booty@hexbear.net 10 months ago
If you’re going to participate using third-party apps that remove features, you have to accept that people will be confused by your ignorance of those features.
young_broccoli@kbin.social 10 months ago
Lemmy is not the only "player" on the fediverse.
Kbin doesnt show pronouns either. That or I cant find it.
mattw3496@kbin.social 10 months ago
I agree with the others that the admin shouldn't have doubled down, but as someone using kbin.social via my phone's browser I don't see pronouns either.
This conflict is actually the first time that I became aware that some instances show pronouns, which I love. But that being said, as an enby I tend to default to they/them pronouns when dealing with the unknown, so I get it.
blakeus12@hexbear.net 10 months ago
it takes 10 seconds tops to check the profile.
onlinepersona@programming.dev 10 months ago
Do you check every profile you respond to?
Oh wait, a hexbear user.
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Rom@hexbear.net 10 months ago
And you call us the trolls.
blakeus12@hexbear.net 10 months ago
legitimately, yes, i do, to make sure i am gendering them correctly. especially if i had a client that didn’t display pronouns.
snooggums@kbin.social 10 months ago
Yeah, this whole argument seems to be about assuming a bunch of hostility because someone was unaware of things they had no reason to be aware of.