The IKEA shark is a mascot/icon for LGBTQ+ spawned from memes.
newsweek.com/how-ikea-shark-became-trans-icon-175…
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onlinepersona@programming.dev 8 months ago
From the screenshots, it looks like snowe wasn’t being aggressive at all. And getting hate for using “they” is excessive. It’s a shorter way of saying “that person”. Blahaj (a blue shark from IKEA? I don’t get it) shouldn’t be this touchy about stuff. It’s like a C programmer getting offended about being called a programmer.
towerful@programming.dev 8 months ago
onlinepersona@programming.dev 8 months ago
Thanks. That seems so random 😅
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 months ago
Shit I default to they usually until I get corrected
It’s more inclusive than just making assumptions plus working in a customer facing position I got in the habit of gender neutral terms and holiday agnostic seasonal greetings
onlinepersona@programming.dev 8 months ago
Exactly. I don’t barely look at usernames, because they are not worth remembering. “they” is my default.
Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 months ago
Off topic question though, why do you have a creative commons link in your comments?
As someone who does a lot of 3D printing and modeling I’m pretty familiar with the “Attribution, non-commercial, share-alike” one but I’ve never seen someone tag all their comments as it before
lukini@beehaw.org 8 months ago
Snowe even proved they can’t see the pronouns. Seems like the other person chose to continue to be mad for no reason.
Meganium97@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 months ago
It’s two things, really; a hexbear user baiting someone to say something controversial, and Ada and Katy making the wrong decision, because they’re human after all.
Maybe they had a reason to believe snowe was a bad actor due to something they said. Shit happens when you’re in a bad internet argument. At the end of the day, at least everything got sorted out.
booty@hexbear.net 8 months ago
name-calling is universally considered to be aggressive. “ignorant troll” definitely counts
it is an extremely common transphobic tactic to de-gender people whose pronouns are easily visible as a plausibly deniable way of attacking them. considering all of us have our pronouns in our names on hexbear, we’re going to assume that anyone 'they’ing us is doing it on purpose, which is an entirely reasonable assumption.
and all this argument started because this admin wanted to defend the latest shovelware trash game by the dev of Cars 3: Driven to Win, which is about putting down the revolt of the race of greedy hook-nosed bankers in a setting written by one of the world’s most open and notorious transphobes
in short: nah this sucks and defederation from queer instances makes sense
SheeEttin@programming.dev 8 months ago
Here’s how your comment appears in Boost via programming.dev. No pronouns visible.
If you’re going to participate outside your own instance, you have to accept that others don’t see your instance’s unique changes.
Aquilae@hexbear.net 8 months ago
That much is fine. But a normal person would stop at that and apologize and move on, not double down on it by going “getting offended by that really isn’t helping your case here.”
An admin being like this is understandably a very bad look for the instance.
booty@hexbear.net 8 months ago
If you’re going to participate using third-party apps that remove features, you have to accept that people will be confused by your ignorance of those features.
young_broccoli@kbin.social 8 months ago
Lemmy is not the only "player" on the fediverse.
Kbin doesnt show pronouns either. That or I cant find it.
mattw3496@kbin.social 8 months ago
I agree with the others that the admin shouldn't have doubled down, but as someone using kbin.social via my phone's browser I don't see pronouns either.
This conflict is actually the first time that I became aware that some instances show pronouns, which I love. But that being said, as an enby I tend to default to they/them pronouns when dealing with the unknown, so I get it.
blakeus12@hexbear.net 8 months ago
it takes 10 seconds tops to check the profile.
onlinepersona@programming.dev 8 months ago
Do you check every profile you respond to?
Oh wait, a hexbear user.
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snooggums@kbin.social 8 months ago
Yeah, this whole argument seems to be about assuming a bunch of hostility because someone was unaware of things they had no reason to be aware of.
hakase@lemm.ee 8 months ago
To everyone attempting to reply to the above comment in good faith, remember that the only way to productively engage with a hexbear is to not engage at all.
Kuori@hexbear.net 8 months ago
you’re the one poisoning the well, how is that not troll-adjacent at best?
btbt@hexbear.net 8 months ago
I’ll never get over the fact that the sheer reality of our existence is enough to melt some people’s brains, we’re truly the spectre haunting online libs
Rom@hexbear.net 8 months ago
If you want people to reply to you in good faith you have to engage in good faith. If you’re going to make passive-aggressive comments like this, don’t be surprised when we make fun of you for it.
You are engaging by making such smarmy little edits.
onlinepersona@programming.dev 8 months ago
Same. Block and move on.
roguetrick@kbin.social 8 months ago
Getting twisted about gender neutral language as a tool of oppression is dumb as hell. I consider gender neutral language to be preferable and more egalitarian and wish English would just drop gendered pronouns like Persian did and like we dropped gendered nouns compared to most other proto-Indo European languages. I find this nonsense position to be oppressive myself.