Comment on How do I stop hating children?

• marshadow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I was also expected to be very quiet and perfectly behaved, and have also struggled with resentment toward rowdy children as a result. Even now, at 39 years old, I sometimes want to retaliate with an Aztec death whistle.

  Therapy can be really helpful in learning to deal with that resentment. If possible and reasonable, so can talking about it with your parent(s).

  Several years ago I said to my mother, “I’m feeling angry right now because I’m thinking about that loud kid we saw in the store today and remembering how I had to repress myself as a child.” Then we had a really productive conversation about the pressure to defy stereotypes about poor parents, being a parent with unrecognized and unsupported neurodivergence, and sensory issues.

  I hope you’re able to dissolve a significant amount of your resentment, too. In the meantime, there’s a kind of reusable earplug that reduces noise just a little bit so you can still have a conversation (can’t remember the brand name though).

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• LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  My husband had that kind of childhood too, and loud kids really trigger him, just like you’ve described in your post.

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• God_Is_Love@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  That’s a great insight for you to have! It’s easier to address a struggle if you can identify the root of it ❤️ Also many of us can empathize with being treated that way as children.

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