Ah yes, learning moves from porn. Like, we all know women love the finger fish hook in the mouth thing, the violent rubbing of the clit (until she has to physically move your hand away), the slapping of the face, the cock down the throat until she gags and phlegm comes out her nose etc etc.
Are you assuming all women like the same thing and all dislike the things you’ve mentioned? Because that’s not true, and you can take a trip to sex friendly commnunities for women and quickly find someone who “likes it rough” or whatever. You can say most people might not like that, and that could be true, but there are still people who do.
If you want to teach sex ed with a better focus on sexual pleasure, then you can do that in the last year of high school or college (when everyone has already reached the age where they can legally have sex), whichever is preferable. We don’t expect to learn maths from a sci-fi movie, but it certainly can inspire smart people to try for new scientific advancements - just like porn can inspire people to try new positions and techniques, if we actually educate people alongside so they’re aware of what is or isn’t necessarily pleasurable to everyone and that you should ask and talk to your partners to get to know what they’re into.
bmsok@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Good sex as a whole is about experimenting, learning, respect, and, most importantly, consent. I personally wouldn’t have learned how to be a bit creative without some help from porn.
Tips and tricks can lead to more fulfilling relationships.
Plopp@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Of course you can learn things from porn. But you have to know what you’re dealing with first or else it’d be like learning physics from a Marvel movie.
bmsok@lemmy.world 11 months ago
That’s why early age sex education is equally important. Porn isn’t going away. Being proactive and teaching that there are ground rules to consent and that “no means no” means something is huge.
There should always be a clear line between experimentation and outright molestation and that’s what modern sex ed should be emphasizing.
“Do you mind if we try this?” or “I saw this in a porno, can we try it?” should be normalized just as much as “When were you last tested?” or the simple “Are you ok with this? We’re about to have sex, right?”