You might want to look up what patronize means, in the common phrase “don’t patronize me” it’s used sarcastically.
Essentially, replace the word with “helpful” in your sentence, and you’ll see why it doesn’t fit.
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SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 11 months agosome do.
I have a small community masto instance and don’t. If my users want to block the instance, it’s literally 2 clicks and a confirmation away.
Doing to server wide is massively patronizing towards the users
MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 11 months ago
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 11 months ago
yeah, I get what you mean. But it’s still mostly fitting in the way I feel about it. Basically: users can think for themselves. They don’t need me to take care of the bit scary world out there.
Doing so for a whole instance feels super condecending. “I know better than you what you want. I’m going to block it”
MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 11 months ago
I get what you meant, which is why I replied, I’m saying that that word means the opposite of what you intended.
To patronize someone is not a bad thing, the word means “to be someone’s customer/patron” and through doing so, supporting and helping them. That’s where patreons name comes from, for example.
In the phrase “don’t patronize me” it’s used sarcastically to say “I know you’re trying to help, but please don’t” but the word doesn’t actually refer to someone who is going over your head to do things for you. It’s actual meaning is 100% positive, and hence confuses what you’re saying. Which is that blocking threads should be done by users because it should be their decision.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 11 months ago
It might be, but I’ve only ever seen it used in the condecending way. And it seems to be like this used for quite some time
loobkoob@kbin.social 11 months ago
I don't know if it's perhaps a regional thing but, in the UK, "being patronising" is used pretty much exclusively in the pejorative sense, with a similar meaning to "condescending". I don't think I've ever heard (in actual conversation) "being patronising" used to mean someone is giving patronage, in fact - we would say someone is "giving patronage" or "is a patron" instead. We also pronounce "patronise" differently, for whatever reason: "patron" is "pay-trun", "patronage" is "pay-trun-idge" but "patronise" is "pah-trun-ise".
It seems the pejorative use of the word dates back to at least 1755, too, so it's not exactly a new development.
Feathercrown@lemmy.world 11 months ago
What if they’re also using it sarcastically
0x1C3B00DA@kbin.social 11 months ago
They used it in a perfectly acceptable and understandable way. The definition you're describing as sarcastic is an official meaning of the word. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/patronize
mojo@lemm.ee 11 months ago
I see it as just virtue signaling. At the end, we can choose to not join those servers who defederate with them, but I can also think it’s a stupid decision at the same time lol.
pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
Nah, users can vote and then if they don’t get the vote they want, they can go to another instance.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 11 months ago
yup. And that’s what we did. The majority of people either didn’t care either way or didn’t want to block it. With way more “don’t block” than “block”. So that’s that. At least for now
pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
How many users are on your instance? I’ve never heard of it.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 11 months ago
a little over 20 active users
kpw@kbin.social 11 months ago
Users on Mastodon can simply block their domain if they want to.
pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
But can’t Mastodon post on Lemmy and Lemmy can’t block instances on an individual basis? That’s the way I understand it currently stands. I don’t want threads showing up in my feed and would like to block them.