One of the nice things about the fediverse is that different communities can have different standards and as long as nobody gets banhappy or instance block happy we can coexist.

Different admins are going to have different levels that they are comfortable with. I see people using my instances to be a jerk, and I don't like it but I tolerate it. On the other hand, one time I saw an isis video end up on one of my instances, pretty sure that's crossed the line for me. On the other hand, my peer tube has a whole bunch of commercial videos that I don't particularly like but I allow because I'm not their dad, I don't need to condone every thing I see and the user is playing nice otherwise.