Comment on College Students Dump Dating Apps as Bumble CEO Steps Down
5BC2E7@lemmy.world 10 months agopursuing your goal while acting like you are not pursuing it is counterproductive.
Comment on College Students Dump Dating Apps as Bumble CEO Steps Down
5BC2E7@lemmy.world 10 months agopursuing your goal while acting like you are not pursuing it is counterproductive.
Caradoc879@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Jesus fuck that’s completely misinterpeting what I said. I said DON’T go trying to hook up. Forget that goal entirely. If all you want is to fuck go to the bunny ranch in Reno.
If you actually want a relationship, a genuine connection, Go to meet FRIENDS. If you’re an actually likeable person people will want to be around you and be with you. But this neckbeard incel attitude is incredibly off-putting, and it makes nobody want to be around you. It’s all self-fulfilling prophecy.
5BC2E7@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I say that unless you never go out and have no friends friends and no hobbies that’s going to be a massive waste of time. You should let the other person know about your interest in some way and see if they are interested as well. if the best way to find someone is to do what you’re saying there wouldn’t be a reason for dating apps in the first place.
Caradoc879@lemmy.world 10 months ago
You are still misinterpreting me. And claiming I’m misinterpreting you as well lol. Of course you still have to shoot your shot lol. Maybe I’d just assumed that was obvious.
I use names because it’s exasperating and frustrating to have a conversation with pessimists that always have an excuse. I get frustrated when people act like shit is supposed to fall in their laps and complain when it doesn’t.
Relationships take work. Finding a relationship does, too. It takes subtelty and nuance.
5BC2E7@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I never said it’s easy or that because your advic is bad there is no better way. I am just trying to save them from your bad advice. I wouldn’t want them to become pathetic incels.