Comment on anyone willing to walk a noob through getting some services running?

• DaGeek247@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  We know. What you're asking for is the wrong to thing to ask for, here in these forums. Aint nobody got time for walking a strqnger through thw entire install process of five or eight different self hosting programs. My own personal process has taken several months and is still ongoing.

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• Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Then why did you make this post?

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  • helenslunch@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I don’t understand the question. The intention of the post is explained…in the post.

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    • Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Point 1. If you’re asking someone to donate their time to help you, don’t be surprised if they have a few questions first. Wanting to know more about the exact nature of your problem is a good start to figuring out, for example, if they’re even the right person to assist you.

      It doesn’t do you any favours to insist that someone commit to teaching a class over video chat without even being willing to go so far as to give them a syllabus first.

      Point 2. When begging for a free ride, don’t complain that the car didn’t come with seat warmers. If you’re going to insist on dictating the manner in which people help you, the result is just going to be that people don’t want to help you.

      For instance, after posting my first comment, I actually considered offering to PM or chat on Discord so that we could sort out your problem together. I have since reconsidered; this is, in fact, exactly why people who know how to do this stuff usually aren’t super jazzed about the idea of an open jitsi meeting or similar. You’re going to end up dealing with far too many people who feel entitled to make demands of your time.

      I actually like helping people learn about computers. Part of my job involves teaching IT skills, and I genuinely enjoy it. Under the right circumstances, I would be exactly the kind of person you’re looking for. And I genuinely do appreciate your frustration; self-hosting is a mess of bad documentation and incomplete guides full of jargon, poorly explained ideas and assumptions of prior knowledge.

      But looking at your behaviour throughout this thread, I don’t think you’re ready to be a student. You’ve been nothing but combative and demanding, while showing absolutely no appreciation for the time that people are taking to try to help you. It’s a bad look, and it just reinforces exactly why people generally prefer to do this stuff at a remove, if at all.

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      • helenslunch@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        If you’re asking someone to donate their time to help you, don’t be surprised if they have a few questions first.

        The entire purpose of my inquiry is to not sit here going back and forth for hours on end over text trying to figure it out.

        Wanting to know more about the exact nature of your problem is a good start to figuring out

        I don’t have an exact problem.

        It doesn’t do you any favours to insist that someone commit to teaching a class over video chat

        When begging for a free ride, don’t complain that the car didn’t come with seat warmers.

        You’re going to end up dealing with far too many people who feel entitled to make demands of your time.

        You’ve been nothing but combative and demanding

        You’re literally just fabricating all of this. None of that happened. I didn’t “insist”, “beg” or “demand” a damn thing. I simply asked if anyone would be interested or willing. Because, as you’ve said, that’s the sort of thing you enjoy.

        I’ve been combative because I’ve almost exclusively been met with hostility for daring to ask such a thing.

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• iHUNTcriminals@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Wow I hope English isn’t your first language.

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  • helenslunch@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    …why is that?

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    • iHUNTcriminals@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      I just love when people are bilingual.

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      • helenslunch@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        Oh yeah, English is actually my only language, sorry.

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