Right. The BDSM world has very strict rules. If you’re ever with a partner who “wants to try bdsm” without multiple conversations beforehand, then walk away. Aftercare is also a huge and important part of BDSM.
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Krauerking@lemy.lol 8 months agoNo I’ve done it. Done properly it’s with full communication, clear limits, safe words and usually pre-setup and post aftercare which has been very cathartic and important time for my partners.
It’s totally fine if it’s not something you are into but done properly it’s not something that is outside of communicated carefully and shouldn’t be causing court issues cause it’s definitely not something to just do without precise communication.
I get that isn’t always reality but I just don’t want people to think it’s something that’s inherently only harmful.
Enigma@sh.itjust.works 8 months ago
Default_Defect@midwest.social 8 months ago
Being done properly and with clear communication would fall under my “at best” scenario with it just not being my thing, but your comment is important. I never meant to make it sound like BDSM is inherently “dangerous” or whatever.
Krauerking@lemy.lol 8 months ago
It’s fine, yeah I just saw the upvotes and the “no clear communication” thing and knew a partner who would want to write notes afterwards and had a full document of pre agreements and could feel her spirit telling me to not let that go unchallenged
Default_Defect@midwest.social 8 months ago
Oh yes, I know someone that would have been the same way. She was adamant about clear expectations and establishing boundaries.