Comment on online my honesty makes people think i'm trolling, baiting, etc.š
Janx@piefed.social āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
Change my mind: people who ātell it like it isā are just assholes who donāt want to improve themselves. Like, Iām bad at social situations as well, but Iāve actually spent the time improving and I donāt say everything that comes to mind. Considering the other person goes a long wayā¦
EmpathicVagrant@lemmy.world āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
That phrase is largely used by assholes trying to make their rude commentary come off as honesty. I havenāt ever heard someone say that in good faith instead of trying to avoid angry backlash for something said.
Telling the truth, while sometimes harsh, is vital in a good communicative friendship where challenging our peers helps them to grow and leads to closer connections in the long term.
Considering the other person goes deeper than ādoes the truth hurt their feefees and should I lie about itā but yes, thereās often a kind and unkind way to share hard information with someone.
TL;DR Context is huge for when to apply it, though largely honesty is the way to go and someone claiming theyāre ātelling it like it isā is just a way to twist out of responsibility for their lack of tact or empathy
ulterno@programming.dev āØ1ā© āØweekā© ago
If you need to lie about it, perhaps consider if you really need to speak about it.
There is a difference between considering someoneās feelings and assuming someoneās feelings. And I have experienced the difference enough times when I just need information and all I get is misplaced consolation.