You ever tried taking a little girl to the park when you identified as a man?
It gets really weird when complete strangers go up to her and ask her if she knows you.
They don’t do that when you present as a woman.
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TimeSquirrel@kbin.melroy.org 4 weeks ago[deleted]
yucandu@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
supamanc@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
This has never happened to me, and I take my daughter, and her friends to the park all the time…
minorkeys@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
And I’ve hung out with plenty of men and they’ve never sexually assaulted me…
protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
I have had this happen on reverse
I when I go boymode, with my mom at some place like shopping mall, I got weird looks because people thought we were a couple
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
Always seems weird when people are more worried about accusations than sexual assault/harassement. The latter seems far more common ime, even if you are seen as a guy.
Glitchvid@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I think it’s a perspective thing.
Men are less likely to perceive themselves as potential SA victims: so the relative subjective “chance” of false accusationsagainst them vs being victims themselves impacts their priorities.
minorkeys@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I’ve been sexually assaulted multiple times over my life, all by women. I did not conceive of the actions as assault until I heard women’s claims, of the same actions, be accepted as a form of sexual assault. Men absolutely under report their sexual assault, especially as the definition continues to be expanded, including more behaviors that men have already dismissed.
minorkeys@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Why? Most people, most of the time, focus on the perceived threats to themselves. Men, some subgroup of men in particular, are at a higher risk of false accusations than of sexual assault. What is seen as a danger to them is likely what they’ll focus on. And that’s a very reasonable and fair thing to do. Is that not exactly what women do when they focus on the risk of sexual assault and not on the risk of false accusations?
Both are legitimate fears. Both make sense. Both should be respected but only one actually is, across society.
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 4 weeks ago
Are they? The former seems pretty much unheard of while the latter ain’t uncommon. I think the only subgroup of men where the perceived risk of being falsely accused of SA are men who commit SA and just don’t believe it is SA.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 weeks ago
So, if women can have the option not to ride with men, which is no problem. Then why can’t men have the option too?lWhat harm does it do to women if men can have the option as well?
There is no good way for me to interpret this, it must be an ulterior motive in there.
Either 1: the person saying that is a misandrist that, although they did have negative experiences with men, this does not justify their contemptfull attitude towards men, which they cover up under the excuse of protecting women.
2: They actually believe their gender should be have advantages. That just because they were born a certain gender, that gender should have advantages. Like, finding excuses for why the other gender deserves less.
3: They are afraid that giving men an equal option will make them seem like an Incel that is trying to make it seem like men are equally vulnerable for propaganda reasons, so they are afraid to choose the just and equal option, just because they are afraid of backlash. So men get dicked over for little good reason, because westerners see everything as zero-sum.
minorkeys@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Yes. Higher risk of one thing over another does not mean high.