Comment on Uber is letting women avoid male drivers and riders in the US

• WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I never understood this fear.

  Always seems weird when people are more worried about accusations than sexual assault/harassement. The latter seems far more common ime, even if you are seen as a guy.

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  • Glitchvid@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I think it’s a perspective thing.

    Men are less likely to perceive themselves as potential SA victims: so the relative subjective “chance” of false accusationsagainst them vs being victims themselves impacts their priorities.

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    • minorkeys@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’ve been sexually assaulted multiple times over my life, all by women. I did not conceive of the actions as assault until I heard women’s claims, of the same actions, be accepted as a form of sexual assault. Men absolutely under report their sexual assault, especially as the definition continues to be expanded, including more behaviors that men have already dismissed.

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  • minorkeys@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Why? Most people, most of the time, focus on the perceived threats to themselves. Men, some subgroup of men in particular, are at a higher risk of false accusations than of sexual assault. What is seen as a danger to them is likely what they’ll focus on. And that’s a very reasonable and fair thing to do. Is that not exactly what women do when they focus on the risk of sexual assault and not on the risk of false accusations?

    Both are legitimate fears. Both make sense. Both should be respected but only one actually is, across society.

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    • WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Men, some subgroup of men in particular, are at a higher risk of false accusations than of sexual assault.

      Are they? The former seems pretty much unheard of while the latter ain’t uncommon. I think the only subgroup of men where the perceived risk of being falsely accused of SA are men who commit SA and just don’t believe it is SA.

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      • minorkeys@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Yes. Higher risk of one thing over another does not mean high.

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• yucandu@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You ever tried taking a little girl to the park when you identified as a man?

  It gets really weird when complete strangers go up to her and ask her if she knows you.

  They don’t do that when you present as a woman.

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  • protogen420@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    I have had this happen on reverse

    I when I go boymode, with my mom at some place like shopping mall, I got weird looks because people thought we were a couple

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  • supamanc@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This has never happened to me, and I take my daughter, and her friends to the park all the time…

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    • minorkeys@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      And I’ve hung out with plenty of men and they’ve never sexually assaulted me…

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