Yes, lots of people let life pass them by. I’m in full agreement with that, but a lot of people do not have the flexibility to do much about their situations. It’s not a lack of agency, it’s a lack of freedom and safety to make changes.

I understand your point to be this: everyone could have had a good life if they had correctly applied themselves and gone after what they wanted, so people who haven’t meaningfully changed their circumstances and are unhappy with their lives are themselves to blame. My point is this: many people could enjoy their lives more if they took control of their own choices, but not everyone can. Sometimes people just get dealt a shitty hand.

Have I misunderstood your point?