Comment on What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love
Waldelfe@feddit.org 3 days ago
I liked dating platforms way back in the days when you could make your own page, had large text fields to describe yourself and could filter by age, location and maybe a few other important things like smoking or wanting kids. Years later I tried the apps and it was just frustrating and nothing else. There wasn’t even really space to describe yourself or show your character.
Soup@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Been trying Hinge and there’s lots of space and opportunity for it. What I’ve discovered/had validated is thay most people are just painfully cookie-cutter. Some are not, and it’s why I still use it.
jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 day ago
So many people see the prompt “what I’m looking for” and write “my keys”.
A. That’s not a terribly funny joke. It’s fine, but not great.
B. It’s not original.
C. You are wasting valuable space. Now the other person has a little less information to make a good opening message. Do you really want that many people messaging you about your keys? Really? Why are you setting yourself up for unhappy outcomes?
Most people don’t think very hard about this, and hope it’ll just work out.
Soup@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I just skip over that stuff. If they’re cute but otherwise just expect me, a person who can’t know anything about them, to show up and figure it out then I’m just going to move on. It’s annoying that it takes up space but I otherwise just ignore it. Same with anyone who has reduced themselves to a universally palatable version so as not to be too challenging.
jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 day ago
That’s my point. They’re doing a self-sabotage. Some of them will then complain that they’re not getting good matches and messages, but a big factor is they’re not giving potential good matches anything to work with.