what his fantasy of siblings was
My mom seems to have an okay relationship with her two sisters. My dad also seems to have a great relationship with his three sisters. (Also now I notice how they all have mostly female children… and I pretty sure the parents (aka: my grandparents) are disappointed because 重男轻女 (favortism towards male children in China).
So now, that was before One Child Policy.
So by the time my parents were married, that one child policy came into effect.
So they had my older brother…
then mom was like: “oh no I don’t want my son to be lonely, I had great relationships with my siblings, so…”
so they created me… originally in order to be my older brother’s playmate… so that “he wouldn’t be lonely” 🙃
This isn’t just speculation, I asked my mom why she gave birth to me and that is literally what she said. Also amonst other reasons like “because Children brings happiness”?..
I’m pretry sure my mom would be so disappointed if we end up just going no contact… I mean I’m still living with my family of origin and I haven’t really spoken to my older brother for like… the past 7 years… other than comments in passing, like living under the same roof and just never hang out anymore…
cuz we had a big fight 7 years ago…
we have no brotherhood anymore, it’s over…
my repressed memory of when I ran away as a 6 year old because of I was scared and he was chasing me around the house, before we emigrated when I was still in China, that memory also became more and more recurrening, now that memory just always on the top of my head.
I could’ve gotten kidnapped that day… because of a fight… caused by him (he’s 5 years older so I can’t fight back)… most traumatic day of my entire life
NABDad@lemmy.world 1 week ago
I’m my case, I have an ok relationship with my older brother. We don’t see each other often, but we do get together for lunch from time to time.
I stopped talking to my sister years ago. I told her our relationship was on hold until she committed to getting some therapy. She immediately hung up and proceeded to start spreading lies about me. She has previously tried to convince my kids that my mother hates them, and at my father-in-law’s funeral (standing at the casket) she told my mother-in-law to marry for money next time.
My wife finally realized her remaining brother was an asshole and cut off contact after he took our kids to a rock concert. She asked him not to drink at the concert, which pissed him off and he proceeded to drink at the concert. Their older brother was killed by a drunk driver, so it was a particularly shitty thing to do.
I’ve often said there’s always at least one insane person in every group of siblings. My father heard that and asked, “what about for me? I don’t have any siblings.”
I told him in his case he doesn’t have to wonder who the insane one is.