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Comment on If I'm struggling with depression, I get ostracized as a "loser" that haven't accomplished anything but if I die in a tragic accident tonight, I'm a "young man with a bright future ahead"

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wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

Is anyone who’s backed into a corner there because they backed themselves into it? Cause that seems concerningly adjacent to victim-blaming mentality.

We don’t do it for abuse victims, we don’t do it for people in poverty, and we don’t do it for people with chronic (physical) illnesses or permanent injuries. So why is it okay to do it for people with depression?

I think that’s the spirit of this post.

And just because I don’t have a viable miracle solution doesn’t mean I can’t tell you what doesn’t work. That’s a silly notion. If the solution is so simple, I wouldn’t have been suffering from depression for so long.

People like you seem to believe we choose to be depressed, because why? You think we just like the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness? You think we enjoy constant despair and don’t ever want to be lifted out of it?

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Woht24@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Yeah yeah mate.

I’ve suffered depression on and off for my whole life. Ain’t no one going to get me out of this but me and when I am eating well, exercising, working a job I don’t dislike and being social, I am happiest and my depression is quietest. It’s hard to keep it constant but I don’t post shit on social media making never ending excuses and essentially treating mental health like terminal cancer.

My entire point is your post is supposed to relate to depressed people and you’re essentially telling people who have little to no will power depending on the time of day that everything is useless and nothing helps. I truly don’t understand the point of it…

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saltesc@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

Is anyone who’s backed into a corner there because they backed themselves into it?

Yes. The corner doesn’t actually exist. A big mental hurdle is realising there’s nothing stopping someone from doing whatever they want. We have social contracts, but they’re also a part of the problem if taken too seriously.

I frequently remind myself, “If I were born the only human on earth, knowing none of this, what would I be doing right now?” and I aspire to be that person, because that’s the true me.

99% of people’s “life problems” are rooted in other people existing. Others are not to blame, of course, but it’s just something to be aware of when taking care of one’s mental health. The corner only for exists on acknowledgment.

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