Comment on Finding people who vibe with you is so hard
SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You have to keep searching. If you don’t try, you won’t get it.
Shit is awkward sometimes but great. You’re right, finding people who are that right amount is difficult. Find them.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yes, but also sometimes the more you try the worse it gets.
If I don’t try to date, for example, I won’t get a partner. OK, but I also won’t have drinks thrown in my face, be screamed at, and be harassed by stalkers. All of which I have had to deal with in dating and was all so intensely negative I’m not sure the potential positive is worth it.
SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My best advice for finding a partner is to first find a best friend that evolves into a partner.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
that’s not how sex works though.
jaycifer@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I only read the abstract, but that appears to not be the case, and a majority of relationships start as friendships: pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8892041/
SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Many people marry for different reasons. To each their own. In my eyes, I married for my forever partner. Beauty fades and I want more than a bang. I want someone who’s brain will be my partner more than their body.
The “make friends first” method works for me for this. Yes I want to have sex but I don’t want my intimacy to be wasted.