I often feel a strong desire to downvote in retaliation to other people’s downvotes, so I certainly don’t expect others to be perfect when I’ve probably not perfectly lived up to my own ideals in the past. The real answer, I think is to remove downvotes, even from the underlying message formats, and somehow rework the “report” button so that it’s not a burden for mods to deal with. Maybe something like Slashdot’s community moderation could ease the burden.