Comment on Is it gay to have pleasurable sex with your wife?
peopleproblems@lemmy.world 1 day ago
See there’s a problem here. My philosophy is that she gets off. No matter how hard I work at it. However I can’t just go up and tell women this.
I thought I couldn’t date hot women because of my appearance. So they’d never find out my philosophy.
It actually turns out I can’t date hot women, especially hot women like this, because hot and intelligent are uncorrelated (not positively or negatively, just no correlation). This woman, in particular (assuming that’s his wife) is physically attractive, but given her choice of partner, is clearly unable to think. Why the fuck would I be sexually attracted to someone who can’t think.
Which explains why I don’t even bother following up. The slightest hint of stupid makes them unattractive. So it’s not my appearance, is it. It’s something else that’s wrong with me.
Look no offence but there’s certainly some arrogance in thinking that what you think of as “can’t think” or “[ability] to think” in any way correlates with reality, or is based on anything but shallow subjectivity.
Every single day I give off so many “hints of stupid[ity]”, and it’s the people who subsequently put me in an idiot box in their head that I simply can’t stand. Honestly I couldn’t revile anyone more.
RBWells@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Competence and intelligence are attractive, you aren’t elitist, that is so reasonable. Not saying there’s nothing wrong with you, I don’t know you. But wanting someone competent that you can talk to, that is a normal thing to need.