Oh that’s it. There’s the veneer of Southern Hospitality (and a lot of it is legitimate) but folks keep the nastiness behind the curtain. Like, I have family that looks back on their aunts and uncles and had no idea they were racist until they thought a lot about some incidents, or caught something weird.
It went both ways, 100%…. Reconstruction failed. There’s a lot of resentment.
shalafi@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Much of what my anecdote was about, the veneer has slipped. And yes, much of it is legitimate. Much seemed to come from, “I’m not the racist my parents were!” But it was weird and borderline scary seeing that veneer peel off that last trip.