You are answering to your past choices.
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DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Over the years, there have been fewer and fewer people in my life. Sometimes I told them to fuck off, sometimes they told me to.
Now that I’m retired, there is no one left, except my adult son, and the cat. It’s fine.
I do what I want to do, when I want to do it, and answer to no one. No compromising, no tongue biting, no one pushing me to do something different.
I’m happy and content. No regrets.
Pudutr0n@feddit.cl 7 hours ago
1984@lemmy.today 8 hours ago
This is one of the huge advantages of older age. Early in life, we are forced to adapt to other people. Parents, teachers, friends…
As we get older, we know exactly what kind of people we actually want to have as friends, and the rest we can let go easily.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 8 hours ago
Two part comment:
I don’t think you should have to answer to anyone, but at the same time don’t sell yourself short.
Humans are social creatures by nature - even if you’re very introverted like me, you do need some sort of connection. In your case, it may not be connection you need, but build some redundancy in a system that works for you.
One of the things that I noticed as my 30s came and went was how situational friendships and relationships are. Most people you meet in life are just passing though your story. Very few stick.
I also realized how little effort most people put in to friendships. I’m always the one trying to maintain. They have my number but the phone never rings for the most part.
krooklochurm@lemmy.ca 8 hours ago
I feel like people are becoming less and less social.
It’s an epidemic.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 hour ago
Well good fucking luck! So many people I want to call, to visit. But society is built to make sure I have to think only about work, survival, and say 3 friends that I get to prioritize.