Not conservative.
I’ve gotten very very used to being asked for titles on forms and the like. I’ve gotten used to respecting other peoples’ pronouns.
I have not gotten used to being asked for my own, and I don’t like it.
I understand that you can look just like me while having a gender identity that does not match my own—some men like to present in a feminine manner sometimes while still being men, and some people are non-binary, third gender, agender, etc. but might still dress in a very feminine way for whatever reason. To cover all your bases, ask pronouns, because guessing “she/her” at a feminine presentation in a body with a feminine shape won’t always be right. If you want to maximize your chances of being correct, you need to ask.
But whenever I’m asked, I also wonder if I’ve presented in a way that signals anything other than “woman” (which frequently but does not always line up with feminine presentations from feminine bodies). Did I just totally fail at presenting the way I want to and if forced to assume you’d guess I’m third gender, or are you being inclusive and considering that people who present like me aren’t always women? It’s the privileged, cis-woman version of “did you have to ask because I failed hard at passing, or do you just ask everyone this?”
I also understand it is probably for the benefit of most people to ask, so I let it go. After I ask if they asked pronouns because they honestly thought it’s super likely I don’t use she/her in which case oh god what do I change so I can make the assumption be that I use she/her, or if it’s just them trying to be inclusive and cover all bases which is good and respectable.
jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 year ago
I’ve always thought “it’s okay because it’s old” is a pretty poor metric. It’s cheap but it’s accuracy isn’t very good.
alokir@lemmy.world 1 year ago
It’s not really about that, sometimes conservatives also agree that a change is needed but they disagree on how to get there.
They see the current state as something that was built up naturally over a long period of time and everything has its place for a reason. Sometimes those reasons are not apparent immediately and making a sudden change will bite us in the long run in an unexpected way, maybe 100 years down the road.
They might agree that the status quo is bad but they think change should come gradually in small steps, allowing things to settle down a bit, and reflect on the consequences before moving forward. They might say that at least we understand the situation and the rules of what we have now, we shouldn’t stray too far ahead into the unknown.
For example, imagine that you live in a country under foreign rule. Should you start a war of independence and risk getting crushed or should you try to force concessions gradually over time and risk not getting anywhere? This is roughly the debate that took place in my home country in the 1800s.
While it’s true that the extremes are that conservatives want time to stay still while progressives want to burn the world down and reform everything in a single day, but most of the time people are somewhere in between, or even change their positions depending on the issue.
jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 year ago
I mean. Maybe. But much of the time it’s like “hello I’m gay and I would like to live peacefully” and conservatives are like “whoa let’s not go crazy.”
It’s easy to argue for slow change when you benefit from the current state of things.
Also most conservatives in the US seem to be reactionaries or radicals that want to make sweeping changes like abolishing the DoE.
alokir@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I’m not an expert on American politics but my impression is that there are a bunch of people with conservative attitudes towards change, and politicians know exactly how to play them.
They get riled up with the proper slogans and become what you have described. I’m not saying they are innocent victims here, they definitely should know better and everything they do is on them, but I still think this is mostly what’s going on.