Elevator7009

@Elevator7009@kbin.cafe

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Instance Protectionism in the Threadiverse happens because of the Prisoner’s Dilemma (protecting one's own instance is currently more sensible than increasing overall discussion quality)⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I do the exact same as you. At least on my Kbin instance, going in All and Local opens me up to outrage bait, and doom-and-gloom “big corporation and alt-right bad” news. I agree wholeheartedly with “big corporation and alt-right bad” and that they’re the cause of too many of the world’s big serious problems. I’d also rather spend my time on Kbin enjoying what I see instead of getting mad. I can already find out what horrible thing a corporation or alt-right politician has done from the regular news, without the understandable but exhausting comment chain of outrage.

  Except on a few topic-specific instances, where the local communities are only about that topic. There I will actually use Local as default. No outrage bait or doom-and-gloom news, just all things about whatever topic the instance is dedicated to that I happen to be interested in.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the difference between asking someone title or someone's pronouns ?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  It might also just be that the person asking you just always asks.

  did I pass and you just ask everyone this because not everyone conforms to the gender binary?”
  … I already brought up that possibility :(

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the difference between asking someone title or someone's pronouns ?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Not conservative.

  I’ve gotten very very used to being asked for titles on forms and the like. I’ve gotten used to respecting other peoples’ pronouns.

  I have not gotten used to being asked for my own, and I don’t like it.

  I understand that you can look just like me while having a gender identity that does not match my own—some men like to present in a feminine manner sometimes while still being men, and some people are non-binary, third gender, agender, etc. but might still dress in a very feminine way for whatever reason. To cover all your bases, ask pronouns, because guessing “she/her” at a feminine presentation in a body with a feminine shape won’t always be right. If you want to maximize your chances of being correct, you need to ask.

  But whenever I’m asked, I also wonder if I’ve presented in a way that signals anything other than “woman” (which frequently but does not always line up with feminine presentations from feminine bodies). Did I just totally fail at presenting the way I want to and if forced to assume you’d guess I’m third gender, or are you being inclusive and considering that people who present like me aren’t always women? It’s the privileged, cis-woman version of “did you have to ask because I failed hard at passing, or do you just ask everyone this?”

  I also understand it is probably for the benefit of most people to ask, so I let it go. After I ask if they asked pronouns because they honestly thought it’s super likely I don’t use she/her in which case oh god what do I change so I can make the assumption be that I use she/her, or if it’s just them trying to be inclusive and cover all bases which is good and respectable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is everyone so giddy about the flooding thay happened at burning man?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve never liked that at all.

  I’m not exactly rich, but compared to some starving people in third-world countries yes I am.

  I hate to think that because of that, I must be stupid and deserve every bad thing that happened to me. After all, I’m just an overprivileged first-worlder, therefore I purposely tried to step on everyone to get my way. Because you suffered in ways that I never have, I must suffer like that and you get to laugh at the “rich person” flailing and generally being miserable.

  This is why I stick to /sub. To avoid this kind of kbin post. And I somehow find these posts anyway (didn’t even seek out stuff outside of /sub, not sure how I landed here, going to find out how it happened so it won’t happen again) and get angry.

  Lovely outrage bait. Never change, internet.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do posts from instances that don't allow downvotes have an unfair advantage?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  kbin.cafe. According to my instance, I’m your first downvoter, which is clearly not true judging by the replies to you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm sick of nsfwlemmy.com content popping up in my feed⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s odd, maybe your instance fixed it. I have accounts on two Lemmy instances. I just logged myself into those instances and they both ignored the fact that I have it set to Subscribed. Not to All.

  Not everyone is lucky enough to have their All be memes, and even still some memes I just don’t feel like seeing, or whose point are “lol thing bad.” Even if I agree with you that Thing is Bad I don’t want to see it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm sick of nsfwlemmy.com content popping up in my feed⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  This is exactly what I do! Unfortunately, when I first log into Lemmy or Kbin, despite me having my settings set to show me only subscribed stuff by default, it totally ignores that setting (and what communities I’ve blocked) and just shows me the equivalent of /all on kbin or on that Lemmy server. There’s a codeberg issue for this on kbin already, so just have to wait for it to be addressed. Not sure if Lemmy has an equivalent issue on their GitHub (or whatever they use) yet.