If you can’t be alone with, and genuinely love, yourself; you’ll never be able to do that with someone else. Living alone for a little while really helped me either this.
Comment on Any advice for me a guy turning 18 yo old??
TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip 1 week ago
Get to know yourself. What kind of person you are, what do you like, need and so on. Accept yourself as you are.
Sure, you can change your weight, learn new skills, become better at stuff and get stronger. I’m not talking about those things. Some traits just are the way they are, and fighting against them will only result in frustration, stress and sadness. Try to figure out which parts of you can be changed and which ones can’t. Treat them accordingly.
d00phy@lemmy.world 1 week ago
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 week ago
You are the only person who is fully stuck with you and vice versa. You have to live with your choices and behaviors, and I’ve never met someone who genuinely both should and does have no regrets.
You will fail to be a good person, you will disappoint people you respect, you will fuck up on the job and in your relationships, and you will be the asshole sometimes. Treat each of these instances as a chance for growth and humility. A sincere apology and putting effort towards being better in the future will go very far. And when others do the same show them the grace and kindness you wanted when you fucked up.
That said, some people are in destructive places and will keep fucking up and hurting people, understand when you can’t help and when it will hurt you to stay in their life.