I get that too. But many people who are going to do harm won’t care what you do to ingratiate yourself. They’re more likely to see it as a sign of weakness that makes an easier target. We can’t service our way to safety. And on an even more fundamental level, the never-ending grasping for security through impression management is a way to distract us from the fear of death. “Memento mori,” in part is meant to short circuit this drive, which can turn malignantly toward sacrificing humanity and freedom for illusions of immortality and invincibility.