Comment on No more Mr. Nice guy

• Hackworth@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I get that too. But many people who are going to do harm won’t care what you do to ingratiate yourself. They’re more likely to see it as a sign of weakness that makes an easier target. We can’t service our way to safety. And on an even more fundamental level, the never-ending grasping for security through impression management is a way to distract us from the fear of death. “Memento mori,” in part is meant to short circuit this drive, which can turn malignantly toward sacrificing humanity and freedom for illusions of immortality and invincibility.

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  • Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah I’m better at advocating for my own needs and boundaries now but I wanted to point out that in some cases at least it’s just a maladaptive behaviour.

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• primrosepathspeedrun@anarchist.nexus ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  So arrogance AND cowardice?

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