Oh snap, you’re me.

As an agendered pansexual, the wildest thing to me about the trans/cis divide is actually feeling that strongly about having a preferred gender. I simply can’t fathom caring hard enough to care. I default to “female” because I was AFAB, but if someone calls me by a different pronoun, it’s whatever to me.

Now let me be clear - just because I don’t feel gender for myself, doesn’t mean I can’t respect and support those who do feel strongly about their genders.

Bonus mini-rant

I wish I didn’t have to make an announcement pointing that out. Something changed in the past decade or so, whereby if someone simply states a non-standard experience or quality about themselves, people now assume that they must be “against” the standard experience/quality. It’s frustrating and unconductive to conversation when people assume every comment must be a prelude to an argument. There used to be an assumption that people were conversing in good faith, but lately there’s been a shift. To agree with those different from you is no longer treated as the default, and I find that very troubling.

And as a reference to this comment, this post was fueled by unmedicated ADHD and cannabis (and a bit of frustration, since I accidentally closed the window after the first time I wrote it, so I had to write it twice.)