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ianfraserkrillmaster@midwest.social 6 months agocis guy dating a trans woman is not “gay”. he may himself identify as queer or bisexual but we don’t have to misgender his girlfriend out of a desire to play up his purported right wingedness.
Sorry, my ignorance of LGBTQ does not dilute my point.
However, in my ignorance, I touched on something you didn’t try to refute and I appreciate it: Republicans are quite often in the closet while publicly raging against the thing they secretly embrace.
thats for sure a thing. with regards to the shooter i recommend reading ken klippenstein’s piece on him, it does not sound like theres enough evidence to firmly consider him a conservative or a groyper or an anarchist yet. he’s weirdly apolitical (aside from executing a bigot for as-yet-vague reasons) and several definitive assertions have been made and later retracted by large media outlets, often citing sources that recanted or hearsay that proved false.
Thanks for the article. I’ll read it now.
yeah its a shitshow
Electricd@lemmybefree.net 6 months ago
According to you, homosexuality is only about gender, not sex. This isn’t right and there is no consensus as far as I know. I would personally say a cis guy dating a trans woman is gay
gender and sex are not the same, for the 100th time
You’re the one inventing misgendering here
ianfraserkrillmaster@midwest.social 6 months ago
doesnt really sound like you’re an authority on the topic. the term “gay” applied to someone who identifies as a man means that they are attracted to men, whereas trans women are- and this is true- Women.
assigned gender at birth is irrelevant, regardless of your personal opinion
Lemzlez@lemmy.world 6 months ago
Attraction isn’t really exclusively based on sex, though. It’s about a whole range of factors, including how someone presents their personality and their physical traits. Many trans women have a lot of traits people find attractive in women generally, so being attracted to a trans woman is consistent with heterosexual attraction.
This means that liking trans women doesn’t automatically mean you’re attracted to men, so calling it gay is an oversimplification of how attraction works.
You could argue that in a strictly biological sense it is homosexual, but that ignores a whole range of social factors, which isn’t really how the term “gay” is colloquially used.
Electricd@lemmybefree.net 6 months ago
I get it. Calling it hetero would seem like an oversimplification as well though. We need more words!
I get it, but making it solely based on gender isn’t a good idea as well I believe. Doesn’t seem specific enough. Also, trans women and trans men don’t necessarily change physically, right? They can still look like their birth gender, that’s what’s throwing me off I believe.
Electricd@lemmybefree.net 6 months ago
After a bit of research, it seems like it aims towards being based on gender and not sex, hmm
I believe I might think it’s about sex because I wouldn’t be interested in a non cisgender person, but that might only be me? I had the feeling that most heterosexual people would not be interested in trans people