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Careful. Skillful Narcissists can be quite adept at keeping their cool in public (to maintain their positive public image) while simultaneously planning their complete and total revenge on you - smear campaign, sabotaging relationships, setting up traps, lobbing false accusations, messing with your employment, messing with your spouse, vexatious lawsuits, the works.

If you play with a Narcissist, be prepared to go ALL THE WAY when you dance with them. Complete and total WARFARE.

Really, unless you have some compelling reason to do so, the only winning move is not to play.

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TranquilTurbulence@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Hmm… That is a good point. Seems like a risky experiment.

The idea with this test setup is based on the idea that the result could potentially provide new information instead of just confirming what I already believe to be true. An inferior experiment would just involve mild flattery, but that can only result in confirmation bias instead of rejecting a hypothesis. Not my favorite type of experiment.

I guess and observational approach is the way to go in this case.

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swelter_spark@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Of course, not playing can also be something they view as hostile.

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- whaleross@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  Grey rocking is the best strategy to get rid of all annoying people. Do not engage, do not give them any fuel, do not give them any satisfaction. Be as boring and unexciting as you can possibly be until they lose interest in you.
  
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  - Photuris@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yep. They’ll sometimes flare up at first, trying to get a rise out of you; but keep steady with grey rock, remain disinterested and disengaged, and they will move on to other targets. It usually doesn’t take long.
    
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  - swelter_spark@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    This is probably true for most people who are mentally healthy, but what I’m pointing out is that for someone who feeds on attention, not engaging with them can feel like such a personal attack that they may put a huge amount of time and energy into destroying your life to pay you back for the insult.
    
    I’ve never personally seen any successful way of dealing with narcissistic people that you can’t choose to avoid.
    
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