nemo@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
The problem here isn't just your introversion. You see smiling at the receptionist for five minutes a day as an unacceptable working condition; but you need to understand that part of keeping a job you like includes managing your coworkers. Maybe for you that really is unacceptable, but other introverts, myself included, have accepted it as the cost of doing business.
I have myself occasionally had coworkers or other call me rude or condescending, and I've never really found a way out from under that when it's happened. What works better is setting a good first impression, working extra hard the first few weeks to give off an impression of humility, helpfulness, cheerfulness, and kindness. Then later if you do have a bad day, or need to communicate something urgently, or need to correct someone's mistake, they'll see that as the exception rather than just "oh that's how she is".
dennis5wheel@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
it’s not only smiling, it’s giving attention to somebody I dislike that tires me.
I have no problem with work friendship that grow naturally, but they have to grow… naturally. Placing me in a environment with an instruction like ‘be friends with these people’ doesn’t work for me.
You write managing your coworkers, even if I’m a coworker myself and not a manager. Ain’t that a manager’s job?
about your second paragraph: you’re such a good actor. I’m too transparent.
and people who hear them complain are not mature enough to ask for the other side before jumping to conclusions, you mean…
golden_zealot@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
Medicine is a team activity. Being capable of relating to coworkers and patients is part of this.
Try therapy or find a different line of work.