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Comment on Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.

devolution@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

40/60 rule here.

HOW you communicate an issue is more important than what you say. You can be 100% right and if you are abrasive and difficult to deal with, then you won’t get your point across. It’s not about extroversion versus introversion. It’s about how you communicate.

We are dumb primates after all.

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dennis5wheel@programming.dev ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

40/60 rule here.

I’m sorry but I’m gonna have to ask what you mean: 40% taking 60% giving?, 40% concentrating on my job 60% talking about inane stuff to placate them?

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- devolution@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  You’ve never heard of 40/60?
  
  40% is the words that are said. 60% is body language and tone.
  
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  - dennis5wheel@programming.dev ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    I am really this disconnected. thanks
    
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spankmonkey@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
The people OP are talking about see direct communication and clarity as abrasive. It is absolutely extroversion vs introversion.

I have worked with plenty of people who all react differently to the same interactions and have the opposite takeaways on whether someone was polite or abrasive. Like one guy I worked with always gave clear answers to things that were asked clearly, but when someone was indirect and wanted the person to infer something any follow up questions (asked directly and without any real emotion) was seen as them refusing to ‘just get it’. That is what these managers sound like. Extroverts who don’t understand that introverts aren’t asshokes for not playing the small talk routine and pretending to be happy about everything.

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- dennis5wheel@programming.dev ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  true, I like getting to the point so nobody wastes energy, but people believe what they want to believe and are really fast making assumptions.
  
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  - nemo@piefed.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    One person's "getting to the point" is another person's "stripping away context", unfortunately. Sometimes we just have to suffer through a long anecdote because the speaker can't separate the relevant and irrelevant parts themself. They're not trying to waste our time, they just organize information differently.
    
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