Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me?
angelmountain@feddit.nl 3 weeks ago
Might sound like a crazy take, but if you just make sure you (only) do what you want and are clear about your intentions towards him, you should be fine.
If you want to have a drink from some casual company until you leave - do that.
If you want some steamy sexy time for one night and then leave - again, do that.
If you really like the guy and might actually consider some sort of longer relationship - guess what, do that.
Just be clear and honest, towards him and yourself.
arumi@endlesstalk.org 3 weeks ago
I totally understand your point!! But in the past, it has happened quite often with my Japanese friends that they assumed I am giving them hint that I want to sleep with them, only because I gave them a goodbye hug. All of these guys were closer to my age. But I do that to all of my friends from every nationality regardless of gender. I stopped doing that with any japanese friends tho, including this guy, I just shaked his hand and said goodbye.
angelmountain@feddit.nl 2 weeks ago
I understand this makes you unsure, but I really think this would be a perfectly normal question to him: “Hey, I really enjoy your company, but I have noticed in the past with other Japanese friends that they sometimes have mistaken a hug for me asking for more. How do you see that?”
Especially with him being an older guy (which generally means a bit less insecure and more mature) I would expect this to be a good start for an honest conversation.
I hope it does work out the way you want!