Eh, I’ve heard that before elsewhere, and it’s always turned out to mean they only accept agender folks if they’re femme enough. I worry that I would, once again, be too masc for a group that ostensibly supports me.
I already feel like the world would be better off without me, and I’ve already had other groups say I’m the bad kind of agender. Like, I used to say I was a tomboy, but then I got kicked out of the college women’s group because its an offensive term?
You know when conservatives ask why supposedly tolerant groups are actually very intolerant? This is that, but like actually legitimate. It baffles me that these groups can operate like this and not realize the harm they’re doing.
Yeah, there is sometimes a grain of truth to that sort of thing. I gotta be real careful talking about a lot of my experiences, because I know they sound like right-wing talking points, and I don’t want to give them ammo against my side, y’know? It’s frustrating, but there are bigger problems that need to be solved first.
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
Eh, I’ve heard that before elsewhere, and it’s always turned out to mean they only accept agender folks if they’re femme enough. I worry that I would, once again, be too masc for a group that ostensibly supports me.
I already feel like the world would be better off without me, and I’ve already had other groups say I’m the bad kind of agender. Like, I used to say I was a tomboy, but then I got kicked out of the college women’s group because its an offensive term?
Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
You know when conservatives ask why supposedly tolerant groups are actually very intolerant? This is that, but like actually legitimate. It baffles me that these groups can operate like this and not realize the harm they’re doing.
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
Yeah, there is sometimes a grain of truth to that sort of thing. I gotta be real careful talking about a lot of my experiences, because I know they sound like right-wing talking points, and I don’t want to give them ammo against my side, y’know? It’s frustrating, but there are bigger problems that need to be solved first.