I definitely have friends like this. I have some family like this. We are good no matter how much time between communications.
I also have some family that put zero effort in and maybe they’d show up if I needed them. But given that after one text, they haven’t checked in at all after my Dad died unexpectedly 7 months ago…
They still have each other and both parents. I’m not going to be the one comforting them.
So I’m not actually sure they’d show up even if I asked.
Luckily, I have people who have checked in on me without me having to reach out first.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
the key word here is “some”, having a couple friends who you know struggle with it isn’t the same thing as being surrounded by people who never initiate contact.
You can’t expect someone to prop up most of their relationships, that’s a nutso amount of effort.