If a dude cheats, he can be put on blast for other women to see.
I had my first real relationship in highschool. We’d been dating for three years, but the last few months the relationship had felt strained and she just wouldn’t tell me why. She had also seemingly been getting closer to this other guy in one of her classes, like, one day he drew a smiley face on the inside of her thigh, and in retrospect I should have just left her right then, but I was in love and inexperienced. A few months later, she broke up with me and wouldn’t give me a clear “why.” I was devestated. About a year goes by (after she dates that guy, and he abuses her, surprise surprise) and she wants to “catch up.”
Come to find out, the reason all that happened was because she thought I had cheated on her with my best friend’s girlfriend. I’ve still to this day never cheated on anyone, nor had sex with a friend’s girlfriend (though one time a friend of mine did lie and say her and her BF broke up, but she was my friend not him, and she lied, I never would have knowingly done it.) Hell to this day I still struggle developing platonic friendships where I can chill alone with women because I don’t want their partners nor mine to become suspicious and it traces back to this exact incident, I prefer if I do hang out platonically with women if there’s a witness that can corroborate no funny business happened if we’re questioned, I literally have long lasting psycological effects over this bullshit.
What I’m trying to say is, I’m glad that in addition to being heartbroken, devastated, not told why, not know why our local scene who she can talk to suddenly thinks I’m scum (in fact it took me a while to even realize I’d become a paraiah), and the long lasting psychological damage of her cheating in revenge and the leaving me for something that never happened yadda yadda, that I wasn’t also lied about to a wider internet audience on an ostensibly permanent basis searchable by name so that any woman I ever meet for the rest of my life can see my ex gf’s incorrect suspicion which was likely manipulated by that abuser in the first place, as fact.
And people wonder why I gave up on dating.
AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
Of course they do, they’re getting safety and somebody else is getting abuse.