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gofsckyourself@lemmy.world 8 months ago
I wish I felt the same way, but other users are making it frustrating and draining. I’m contemplating leaving. But, I don’t know of anything similar to browse, other than Reddit and I refuse to use their app or pay a subscription for another.
Can relate. Improved my experience greatly by not browsing „all“ anymore. Just subscribed to everything I deemed worthy or interesting and stayed in my home feed. Sometimes I go into All to find some new stuff, but that’s a rare occasion.
Btw I use Voyager so I can see total upvote/downvote counts on users. Helps me weed out a lot of people that seem to be assholes on a regular basis. Yours is at 2 upvotes, so we seem to resonate somewhat ❤️
Don’t let a few people ruin your experience
It’s more than a few. It’s several admins, a handful of their followers, nearly an entire instance’s users (even after blocking it), and even one user that is now hiding under a new account.
It’s also partly how the platform works which feeds the most toxic users. It’s how the platform seems to entice people into stricter tribalistic behavior than other platforms. Say anything that might be construed as negative towards one of the many things these groups base their entire identity on and you get swarmed by them and you can’t even defend yourself. You get downvoted to hell and they get upvoted for being assholes by their other cult-like followers. Not that votes “matter”, but it just makes it feel shitty when someone decides to be an asshole to you and they get supported for it while trying to defend yourself only gets more people against you.
There’s more, but trying to describe it all is making me feel worse.
This place sucks. It’s absolutely awful that I feel this is actually true, but reddit was better than this.
What instance?
dbzer0, actually. I literally just had a recent encounter with the admin Flatworm/Unruffled where they decided to needlessly pick a fight. They were backed up by other dbzer0 users, including @Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com, in fact.
I find it useful to sign up for multiple accounts and then segregate those into browsing/posting habits for different categories. One for gaming (or other relaxed communities), one for science & tech, one for politics that I only occasionally dip into, one that's a voting only account, etc.
At the very least, you can take a break from communities that can easily be more toxic, whenever you want. If downvotes bother you, I would also suggest signing up with a fediverse instance that disables downvotes.
The world is what you make of it. It's definitely not fair. One tip: narrow your experiences until you can stand them?
Honestly PieFed helps so much with that, it's like night and day. Maybe switch to PieFed.World (or something) and check how those categories of communities change your experience completely. You don't even need to make an account to start with that.
You don't ever have to scroll your main feed again, until and unless you want to... there are whole entire days when I have not done so, and a wealth of content to be seen if only the right tool helps connect you to what you are looking for. Drop the largest communities and embrace the niche, if you are looking for quality over quantity. Blaze managed it on Lemmy but it took having twenty different accounts, whereas PieFed lets you do it with just one.
It’s not perfect, but we don’t have anywhere better to go.
I don’t expect perfection from anywhere. But yeah, nowhere better to go is kinda the main issue. I feel trapped and surrounded.
What are you finding frustrating?
Explained in another comment but trying to even explain is just making me want to delete everything.
Have you tried Beehaw? its defederated from all edgy instances and enforces strict behavior rules. From my experiences its more pleasant than any place on the internet ive seen. But its completely fair if you feel this place is frustrating and stressful to leave.
irelephant@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 months ago
I’d recommend making an alt on another server, and curating your feed there more, and block users who are annoying.