The idea about separate beds is that that needn’t be separated, sometimes they could be pushed together.
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jqubed@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I guess I’m in the minority that I have a harder time sleeping without my spouse than with. I realized about six months in that I’d rapidly developed some sort of dependence where I would fall asleep quickly if I spooned her. She had surgery in January and spent several weeks in the guest room so she could avoid the stairs, so we’ve tried being apart. It is nice if you have the space/budget for a king bed, though, to spread out from each other some.
Worthess@discuss.online 1 day ago
jqubed@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
I guess in a sense we do that. When we bought our bed we were also able to get adjustable bases, so we went with a split king, which is just two XL-twin beds pushed together (this has the same dimensions as a king). That way we could each adjust our side independent of each other but still cuddle up when we wanted. There’s often a small gap in the middle that can grow and be annoying, though.
CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
But then someone gets stuck in the crack in the middle, which will lead to arguments and divorce.
Worthess@discuss.online 1 day ago
Maybe the sleep number company was on to something, i dunno
Zorque@lemmy.world 1 day ago
The Thin man did have the perfect marriage…
bobs_monkey@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
I’d absolutely love if my wife and I could do the separate bed thing, but she ain’t having that for similar reasons you describe. As such, we won’t live anywhere that won’t accommodate our cal king bed, because she sleeps like a starfish and queen and smaller is a no go.
jqubed@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
My wife puts her hands on her chest which has her elbows out to the side, so I understand the challenge. We can usually make a queen work but a king is so much better. Last time we travelled we wound up in a double, which was awful for both of us!
socsa@piefed.social 14 hours ago
Do y'all just sleep with the AC turned to max all night? I can't possibly imagine any scenario where I could fall asleep while pressed up against a 99* human body during a solid 30% of the year. Without drugs or plenty of booze, that is.
jqubed@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
We keep it relatively cool, but that was something we both did already before our relationship. It was actually something I asked about very early, because I grew up as the only person who preferred it cool to sleep while my parents and siblings preferred it warm. She thought it was really forward until I explained, but didn’t really understand until our first vacation with my parents.
In the summer when the AC is running we cool it to 66°F/18.89°C. In the winter we heat to 63°F/17.22°C.