Comment on How does a guy become his most confident around women?
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 hours ago
Stop having a goal with women specifically. You talking about experience and success with women is literally the total opposite of what makes sense.
Just have fun with a person. You have had fun interacting with people before, right? Just do that. The literal only difference is that you can sprinkle in some sexual innuendos or some shit, if you think of it. If not, also fine. Then go home and resume what you always do. Repeat.
If while doing this you ever notice some sexual tension, just do something sexual. Touch them. Or tell them you find them attractive. Or ask to kiss them. Whatever, it literally doesn’t matter. If they don’t like it, you’ll likely notice because they tell you and then you can do something different. If they like it, you’ll also likely notice, and continue escalating from there. Touching platonic -> kissing -> making out hair/neck/back-> touching sexually titties/butt -> touching pussy. Natural progression.
If you notice something afterwards, while thinking about it (like someone giving you obvious signals that you completely missed), if you can, just respond to the signal as soon as you notice, don’t think “now it’s too late”. In fact, it’s never to late until you tried it and it didn’t work.
But yeah, I can’t stress this enough. The most important thing is to not expect anything. In fact, maybe you’ll never have sexual contact again. It’s best if you’re content with nothing but masturbating for the rest of your life.
AngryRobot@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
This is a fantastic reply.